Finally made it to the library here in Canada.....

Well friends....I tell you..... I've been missing your imput as I go thru the labor pains of polygyny. So much has been going on here....from the first day. And Vena would be glad to know that I've managed to be pretty calm under pressure and have made a good example of myself and my religion. Alhamdulillah.

So here's an account of all the crap that has been going on here......OMG....grab a HUGE CUP OF JAVA!!!!

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So we arrived all safe and sound....hubby was waiting in Montreal for us....he was wearing a brand new outfit that I couldn't help but to make a face at when I saw it. (my 14 yr old, as well)....we drove the 7 hours back to his house and I refused to allow myself to fall asleep, cuz I knew he had already been driving 7 hours to get there. The kids all fell asleep after about 30 mins in the car...so we were pretty free to talk. We talked about a bunch of little miscellaneous junk that didn't put either of us on the defensive. Seems like his brother told him that I may go crazy in canada and try to run off with the kids. Thanks BIL for the support. (which btw, he hasn't called me at all since I've been here....never mind calling me...calling his nieces.....) Morrocan magic called a couple of times en route checking on the love of her life. I managed to make it all the way home without falling asleep.......

**Got to his apt.....and I have to say, I was expecting it to be a lot cleaner....he had dirty sheets on the bed and the duvet cover was supposed to be white, but it was grey....his pillows on the bed were yellow from not being washed in so long. Morrocan Magic made dinner for us......we all refused to eat her food, except for my 11 yr old, (daddy's girl) who ate with him. He was pissed, but contained it till the morning, when he mentioned that he was gonna flip, but because the 11yr old ate with him, he managed to contain himself. I gently pointed out to him, that although it was considerate of him to ask her to cook for us, but that there is a hadith talking about a woman's jealousy about her co-wife's food, and I mentioned how the wife, (I can't remember which Umm al Mumineen) flipped the plate on the floor, where RasulAllah calmly said, "your mother is jealous". He took it gracefully.

**Morrocan Magic is calling him all the time....I'm holding my temper.....She's been calling and whenever one of the kids answer the phone she's hanging up...puh-lease. I refuse to answer the cell phone when I see it says Private Number...I know it's her.

**The 2nd day here in Canada...hubby went to work, and my 14 yr old went into the kitchen to have some cookies....as she pulled them outta the cupboard, a used pregnancy test fell outta the cupboard into her hands. She started crying and showed it to me......(it was negative btw) I was pissed, but calmly presented it to hubby later that day.......I pointed out that a used test goes in the GARBAGE, not in the CUPBOARD behind the cookies. Then I asked him who bought the groceries and put them away? She did. Later on he asked her about the test....she says..."it was old and I forgot about it." He told her that it shoulda went in the garbage....DUH!

**Day 3....went to see my MOM!! yayayaya!! I missed her so much...lots of tears and crying there.....we had a great day and the kids felt so great. (seems like hubby got into a fight with MM on the phone) This night I had a serious talk with hubby. I don't know where I found the courage from....but I told him that I will advise him as his muslim sister, and told him he wasn't being fair to MM. That if she wasn't forgiving him time, while I was here and that she was demanding he be fair....that it wasn't right for him to not be seeing her. I told him to fear Allah, and to do what is right.

**Day 4....Morrocan Magic, although previously agreed for hubby to spend the month with us, has taken it back....(if she ever agreed in the first place)...Hubby went to her place......

More in a bit.......