What's going on......
I did my usual BLOG rounds before getting here today......and I am so full of emotion now........all of you are so good at writing ur feelings and even in the comment box....everyone is so funny and concerned and loving of each other. Is that our forum? Writing? I wonder if any of you express yourselves as well verbally. I wonder if our 1st language Arab husbands realize that their 1st language English wives are pretty damn good with a pen and paper. That they have so much to say and express.......
Top of my list today is Ummabdur-rahmans FAT ASS post....OMG....so funny....and Honorary Arab's post, MY NORWEGIAN COUSIN.....a real thinker.
And me?? well...here goes my post:
I'm leaving tomorrow morning, insha ALLAH. I've got one luggage packed, it's 7 am...and I'm online, drinking my coffee and trying to think how my day will go. The only 2 strings I have left are.....a present for my mom....and I have to pick up the stuff from the tailor. The rest of my day will occur inside my house. I'll get those luggages done.......and tidy up the house again...
Hubby called me yesterday....his brother advised him that he's nuts bringing us to Canada....(he used to be married to cdn Xtian woman, divorced her and married an Algerian woman, so he has issues, okay?)
Told him he should leave us in Egypt where I can't do anything. Ummmm...thanks for the support their BIL! Now you all know that co wife has her own place....I honestly was thinking we'd get there and find food waiting for us...full fridge...etc etc. But my Hubby tells me yesterday, that he has no food in the house, should he go grocery shopping, or maybe we can do that together when i come.....Hmmmmmm....I told him don't worry.....I can take care of everything when I get there, Canada is not a foreign country to me.....that all we want is to be together......so he's like...okay. Oh yeah...he'll stop in at a restaurant on the way home from the airport....
Hmmmmm.....weird...where's co wife? Maybe she's already got her foot in the door? Actually, I am thankful....cuz I'm worried about her and the hocus pocus.....so beter that there isn't anything to eat from her.
I am bringing two new sets of sheets for the bed....I refuse to sleep on the sheets he has.....I am bringing my own towel....same reason......bringing my own faceclothes. (blushing....well....being prepared u know?) I am also bringing a tape of surah al Baqarah....I will play it constantly in the house.
My mom was weird on the phone...rather than being all happy and stuff......she's like....are you going back?? And I'm like...yes I will be. So she says...well then maybe I shouldn't see you, cuz it'll be hard to say goodbye again.....so don't be mad if I don't come and see you......
HELLO??? So I said....oh, Mom...that wasn't a nice thing to say. Is it better not to see me? Ur grandchildren?? Some people wish for a hug across the country and when its about to be in their arms, they open them wider....not shut them. Hmmmmmm......she backtracked on that comment.
I bought myself a couple of new outfits. I really like one of the them....the other one is nice too.....but I like the brown.
Well, kids are excited.....I am excited......And where is the plan that I had? Gone out the window. After reading in someone's BLOG about scratching her hubby's back when she wanted to....just cuz she wanted to.....I thought. I want to hug him and love him....so why don't I? Maybe I will.
I suppose my # 1 goal of this visit, is to find out what the hell is going on with co wife.....make sure hubby is finishing up things there and coming home.....and trying to save my marriage. I pray that when I cry in Canada, that I'll do it when I'm alone............


6 Comments:
Salam alaikoum
I think it was Honorary Arab who wrote about the back scratching. That helped me too because when I read it I wanted to sell my husband on the internet. Then I decided no, I was going to scratch his back instead.
5:23 AM
Wait what did I miss????? I am such a loser I want to scratch my husbands back too...LOL....Safa I love you and Insha'Allah things will be GREAT....Call em if you get the chance... I tried to call you but it didn't work....
7:03 AM
Dear Sissy,
Insha;Allah this will give you a chance to get things back on track. Take your time and try to just focus on getting YOUR realtionship with hubby on track. Try not to be distracted by ANY other relationships he has going -- wife, business, brothers, etc.
I was thinking about your mom's reaction and was wondering how old she is. I can see how my own mom has changed over time and remember so well my grandparents crying whenever it came time to go home from our annual visit. Perhaps she is going through a phase of feeling vulnerable to your physical distance and feeling sad. She also may be going through the experiance we have when we see our children so grown up with their own family concerns. It's funny how these things can hit you.... try to be patient and expressive with her, she may just need this visit more than she admits or even realizes.
Now don't keep us hanging here and make sure you let us know how deliriously happy you are!
Love you, dearest sissy,
PM
7:16 AM
new post already started........I am happy......it tastes strange......maybe it's just the water??
10:58 AM
Asalamalaykom,
For the record, I said, "rub" not "scratch," but for whatever you all heard, did or plan to do: elhumdullah! :)
I agree with PM on concentrating on you and hub. If she gets in your thoughts, then she's in your marriage. Enjoy what you have together!
12:34 PM
Masha Allah sister, I think it's another showing of your own good character that you are a little suprised the co-wife won't be putting out a spread for you and the girls after your travels...maybe this is something you would have considered doing for her...
cuz I'm worried about her and the hocus pocus.....so beter that there isn't anything to eat from her.
Alhumdiallah! You know not to use her douche or eat her food!
I'm so happy for you and inshallah, you will find what you need when you get there.
asalamu walaikum
1:19 PM
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