Landed....
The hubbex has landed in Egypt. 2 hours after he landed I received a phone call from my BIL. He says that the hubbex is devastated upon reaching our apartment. Nothing waiting for him. Just emptiness.
He called his brother immediately and told him to call me. Told him to tell me that whatever I want, he'll give to me......just come back. He'll send tickets if we'll only just come back.
Yeah, whatever. Pulls at my heartstrings and all that blah blah.......
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Reality is sad. And this man has no choice but to act that way. Try and make himself look like a martyr. So let me get this right.....the man that walked out and left without so much as a goodbye? Hasn't given us any money?
I think from now on I'm not going to be answering any phone calls from the inlaws.
posted by Safa at 1:25 PM
12 Comments:
well, his reactin is not surprising. He went months without see you all, and when he did arrive he was treated like a king. He had everything waiting for him. No matter who he was loving up on in Canada or how long he ignored you, you always made him feel special when he returned.
I think that your devotion to him will be greatly rewarded safa. You tried and tried and tried. Too bad he came back too late. If he had done more sooner, he may have been able to salvage what was left of your relationship and your family.
As far as the money is concerned, it's either a way to hurt you or to starve you back to him. Either way I think you're moving to a much better place in life now inshaAllah.
Keep moving forward safa. Just like you always have. We are here loving you and supporting you along the way.
4:51 PM
The inlaws said he would do anything? The thing about Egyptian interference: people often lie and/or exaggerate to produce a desired result e.g. your happiness, your validation, what they think is best for you, what they think is best for the other party, etc. I struggle to believe he said what your inlaws say he said, but I'm a cynic. :)
7:59 PM
hmmmm, i can go two ways on this one safa. he is trying to present himself in a good light to his family...he doesnt want to be the bad guy in their eyes, he wants YOU to be the bad guy in their eyes. anyway, you are singlehandedly taking care of your entire family! and look at your success. that speaks volumes for you.
my second thought is...it didnt really hit him til he went "home" to your apartment and realized that the empty place represented more than just a vacant apartment...the reality hit him. he lost his family and they were no longer in the safe place. the homestead.
sometimes ppl are really sorry a little too late.
8:24 PM
OMG - I am dumfounded - he is 'surprised' that there was no one at the apartment to greet him - WTH - he left you in Canada - what did he thing - that you would tele transport to Egypt to make things all nice and cozy for him - I cannot believe this man - although I guess when you put it in perspective - what a show for his relatives - pooooorrrr baby - NOT. I agree - I would no longer answer any calls from his family - they have chosen and who needs 'em. You are so much better and deserve so much more - you just keep on doing what you are doing. You and your family will continue to be blessed.
9:48 PM
I agree with AUHgal......I believe that the inlaws will lie, exaggerate....you name it.....to get us back together.
They look for results....not solutions.
I'm not going anywhere....
6:19 AM
I agree with AUHgal......I believe that the inlaws will lie, exaggerate....you name it.....to get us back together.
They look for results....not solutions.
I'm not going anywhere....
6:19 AM
well i agree with you safa.the guy wasnt even man enough to say good bye to the kids and now he is devastated that he is alone.how ironic.
7:48 AM
what goes around, comes around. Subhanallah.
and they are your EX-inlaws now, no?
2:47 PM
Loser.
8:54 AM
Btw, I abhor family manipulation and in my experience no one does it quite like a Muslim family -- especially Arabs and Asians. It means nothing -- anything is fair game to say if it brings about the desired result. Pathetic.
8:56 AM
heehee
*grins*
Aren't you glad you're happy and safe in Canada, Safa?
Aren't you glad that at the end of the day, you can get OFF the rollercoaster?
I think it hit him, hard, when he saw the apartment..and realized nobody was in it.
And of course he'll present himself in the best light. And of course the inlaws want you together. And of course he'll promise you the world.
And you have reason to trust him...why?
'nuff said :) I'm so glad you're so smart, masha Allah :))
hugs and kisses to the kidlets xoxox
1:47 PM
Subhan'Allah this brought back memories for me of my husband being so difficult with me and ignoring his daughtr and I warned him when i'm gone visitin my family in USA you're gonna miss us and regret that bad things you say and do. Low and behole he couldn't even stay at our hosue the entire time he spent at his mom's ebcause the first time he entered the hosue with out my smiling face and our daughter's coos he bawled like a babay and wrote me many nice e-mails telling hwo right I am. He learned his lesson! Alhamdulliah we're still married.... my point is hubbex had a chance to change and not hurt you and now he has to live with his guilt and pain and too bad for him. Yeah never give into pressur from the in-laws.... "Give you anything!" Ha how bout a whole load of money and support for the past years? No? Too much? Aww too bad...
Masha'Allah you're better off withuot him.
5:58 AM
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