details of today....today....today

Oh, I have something to really complain about this time!!! GRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!! It's about going out to a major mall on a Friday. NOT a good idea. The mall was packed, people were pushy, even rude, and there was nowhere to sit in the food court.....I swear I was about to bite someone!

But even worse than all that was the entire HOUR I drove around looking for a parking spot. There were absolutely NONE. Oh....well, yes.....I found 2 spots.....and I stood waiting with my blinker flashing, for the person to pull out of the spot. But TWICE, some loser pulled his car in super fast, as i stood there waiting. Both times, my 14 yr old was out of the car, waiting to help me back in. JEEZ! The first car that did it, the people inside were laughing. The second car ignored me completely, even tho I honked my horn at him and motioned that I was planning on parking in that spot. Finally I just drove all the way to Timbuktu and walked from there!

The woman in line at the checkout at Carrefours, directly behind me, tried unsuccessfully to butt in front of me. She was THISCLOSE to actually manoeuvering her buggy in front of me, except for a baby carriage that was blocking her way. I turned and looked at her and said, "even if you get in front of the baby carriage, I was here before you and I'm next in line." She nodded that she understood. When I placed my items on the conveyor belt, she tried to push my items forward further so that she could place her items on the 10 cm's of empty space. She had an entire buggy full of stuff....WTH was 10cm going to do for her? When she tried to push my stuff forward I told her to be patient. In english.

Then she started speaking loudly and was saying...."I've left the kids in the car for over an hour, I'm really worried about them!" I turned to my 14 yr old and said, if she's left her kids for an hour, 5 more minutes isn't going to make much difference. Eventually my items were bagged and then as I was paying, she tried to hurry me aside as I placed my change in my wallet....and I said...."calm down lady." But I swear...I wanted to give it to her!!! My frustration comes from a few things here.....# 1....I was already in line ahead of her....she had no right to try desperately to push in front of me. I had 6 items and she had an entire buggy. # 2...she was shoving my stuff closer together on the belt....I swear this wouldn't save her any time.... #3 trying to get me to hurry out of the store wouldn't have helped her pay any faster, the cashier was NO WHERE near finished ringing up her items. So all that pushiness was really without gaining any advantage......what a waste of time!!

So as we walked thru the mall, I said to my 14 yr old that she should remember, as frustrated and difficult it is to deal with large crowds, that other people are feeling the same frustration we are. So we should be forgiving of them. Even if it means speaking up.
We went to the food court.....absolutely NO tables.......we ordered our food to go and ate in the car. Luckily no one wanted our parking spot...too far away. I've promised myself never to go to the mall on a Friday. Too much hassle.

Oh ya, something nice happened for the 14 yr old. As she was ordering food for her two sisters, an american muslim woman in niqab was having a frustrating time trying to make her order. No problem, my daughter stepped up and helped the lady make her choices. She felt really good for being helpful.

We drove by the bedouin basket man....OMG....I could just die looking at all this stuff. But I managed to keep driving and not look at his wares. But I saw weaved laundry baskets, big and small and tons of other things that I ABSOLUTELY must have. LOLOLOL!!!! Gotta do that on a day when I have no kids with me....oh ya.....and a full wallet. LOL!

Anyhoo, we had a good outing, and enjoyed ourselves, despite the pushiness of others.

OH YA!! I had this moment in the car as I was driving. I was thinking about Hubby and the other wife......and realized that basically, I'm almost over the hurt of finding out he's remarried....but u know what remains and that I absolutely can't get over? The lies and the betrayal. WOW! Those lies hurt me as if I was told them about 1 hour ago.....the betrayal bites me deep and makes me crazy. But the marriage? It's halal. With my deen, I have to allow that, have to accept a second marriage.....but the lies and betrayal....NEVER. Well, moment was over super quick....and I kept driving. You know what I'm thinking of doing? Going thru my blog and printing posts and compiling them all in a book and giving them to my husband on his next visit. I'm really thinking about it.......I bet he'd be shocked.