Shack Wacky Douche Bag........and other lurking evils

Okay....about the douche....for some reason....I need to clarify that.... I don't know why....but co wife sent me a HUGE bottle with hubby. It was his first visit to see me since he married her....and that's what she sent. No other gifts, kind words....just the douche. Of course I was offended and told hubby, I ain't taking that. And he's like.....but SHE uses it all the time.....it's really good for you.....Ummmmm......NO! ((((((SHUDDER))))))

She called me once to tell me thanks for the ring and medallion that I sent back....(plus the douce).....and I sort of made a comment on the fact that I was really expecting some sort of gift from her and that I must have misunderstood the douche. She acted stupid and went on about how she had some left over stuff from the last time she went to Morocco and she was going to send me something. Then I very curtly and efficiently told her that it was nice of her to call and say thank you, but that in the future I really would rather not talk to her cuz it only upsets me and I really don't want to be her friend. (ouch!) I said, if something is serious or important concerning hubby, then please call. Hubby was mad at me for that....but I think I was setting limits. He can't choose my new best friend. He chose a wife for himself....it had nothing to do with me..... Oh ya.....she sent me this really pretty gilbab with hubby this time.......it's super fancy....morrocan thingy with a belt....Hubby just handed the bag to me and said, this is for you. Nothing more.

So I'm thinking of sending her 2 douches and a box of this vaginal powder......I'm gonna wrap it up in a bag and tape it shut and tell hubby it's for her......maybe he'll just hand it to her and say this is for you to her too!!! She'll prolly be thinking the same thing about maybe he said something about her.........I know it's spiteful......but isn't that what happened with Aisha and Hafsa with the soup on the face???

So things aren't really going well with Hubby....I'm still.."giving him his rights." and being nice and polite and caring........I am just still at a loss for the small talk.......and he's being quite cold and even somewhat mean to the kids. He has snubbed the two older ones when they didn't want to go with him to the store in Faisal......(he wanted us to sit there for 5 hours!!)......and then today the girls asked him to go out with him and when he was getting ready to leave, he called the 8 yr old into his room and asked her if SHE wanted to come with him.....after already telling the older ones that they could go out with him. So my 14 yr old is crying....my 11 yr old is HURT, (and she's the daddy's girl...so it really bites her)....and the 8 yr old was just confused cuz she knew that we were ALL supposed to be going out....so she said NO realizing that he meant only her.

So he left on his own today....and I'm at a loss at what to do?? If I talk to him about it.....he may be spiteful to me...and try to say its all my fault cuz I ain' t being nice or some other bull story.....But I suppose I'll just have to take a chance on it....cuz I don't like seeing the kids like this. He has already alienated me......he doesn't have to alienate the kids as well.

He told me when he first came that he was thinking of taking us all to Marsa Matrouh......but that was the last I heard about it.....his sister is coming on Tuesday.....so at least until then, I don't see any plans for going out. Since he's been here, we've gone out for dinner together once as a family. Just yesterday we all walked to the store.....those are the only two times we've been outta the house together.

You know what's horrible?? Knowing that I have to put the effort to talk to him....it's what he wants....ME to come to HIM......and by using the kids in the middle...he KNOWS I'll come.......It's something I shoulda put on my PISSED OFF LIST......

Ahhh well....somebody has to be the adult here......might as well be me.......