Games to play..........

Did I mention that I went to Cairo on Friday? I picked up a couple of Canadian friends and drove them over to my niece's house. We spent all of 4 hours together. It was nice, tho. The two girls I picked up, have basically been raised around us. We used to spend every Eid together. We talked a lot, which is always fun, and just sat back and enjoyed the familiarity of each others company.

Now in the weird part of the story.....my hubby calls me late Friday night. He was strange on the phone.....asking me a bunch of Q's. So I go ahead and tell him that I went to Cairo.....and he sorta acts stunned. (emphasis on the word "acts") Then he asks me why I didn't text message him that I was going to Cairo? Don't I always do that? (no, I don't.....) So I just up and told him, I didn't think I needed ur permission to go to your family's building. (it has always been open) So he started repeating every sentence I said, as if running the flavours over his tongue and trying to get the taste of it. The kind of behaviour that would normally have me running away screaming...."I'm in really HOT water now!!" But it didn't phase me.....only managed to piss me off. So he finished up quick and before he hung up, I asked him....is there something wrong? (which of course, he repeated) and then he said...no, everything is fine. Ummm...ya...ok. How immature. Now, btw, my hubby and I have had an agreement about my going out....he told me that he gives me my own authority here...I'm not answerable to anyone. So I don't know why he'd be making an issue of this one.

I'm expecting him to stop calling me for awhile....since that seems to be his best punishment lately. Today is day 2. I wonder if he can beat his record of 10 days? Considering that he's supposed to be coming to Egypt around June 10th....I doubt he'll go that long without calling. Oh yeah....and he asked me to ask the girls if they wanted anything specific from Canada.....normally we have a good sized list. But this time, only the two younger girls asked for anything. My oldest and I declined the offer. I told him last visit, I don't want anything from my co wife. Least of all, going around buying stuff for me. It's personal, and I'd prefer him to buy things. I know he won't.....so I'd rather not have anything. Everything is available in Egypt anyways.

So I guess my hubby is trying the intimidating behaviour so that when he comes, he'll be on TOP...u know what I mean. He probably feels like a crud, and you know men and their ideas of self preservation........I'm not phased by it. I see it coming a mile away. The truth of the matter is that my hubby did things in the most horrible and most difficult way imaginable. For all of us, even for himself. He's broken my trust, and seriously affected his own relationship with his children. There are a lot of fences that need mending.....and if he decides to try the petty route.....he'll only find a closed door. We are adults.....and I am not playing his games. I am not his toy anymore......I've woken up. I refuse to be naive and believing. It's time for me to be a realist. I just wish I had an ounce or two more strength.....it's all so new.