O M G!

I'm shaking as I write this......

My friend came to my house today to stay here in case or when the ex shows up. I expected that he'd probably show up anyways....even tho I advised him that he isn't taking the kids. But I never expected what happened. Or almost happened.

At 5 pm, I decided that my friend and I were going to go to the store....and be back in 15 mins. Sjon says he'll take the two little ones to the park....and the 13 yr old is staying home with Cleo. So okay...all bases covered, right?

I guess the ex must have showed up 5 mins after we all leave.....Sjon is at the park already....and I'm on my way back from the store....I see Cleo outside crying and yelling at me....

WHAT'S GOING ON?? (I had to yell it at her...)

She tells me....that the ex showed up with the 15 yr old.....they called the 13 yr old downstairs and asked where the other two children were.....and then they took off and headed to the park. I must have arrived immediately after they left.....so I drive off like a madwoman for the park. I see the EX's van @ the walkway into the park and I pulled up in front of him, Starsky and Hutch style.....and block his way out.

He has Abdu in the van and Maryam (13 yr old).....I yell at him....OH NO WAY! I TOLD YOU THAT YOU AREN"T TAKING THOSE KIDS ANYWHERE! ....and yell for Abdu to get out....and manage to calmly tell Nemo (7yr old)...."honey, you aren't going with Baba right now...but come with me and we'll go home and talk about it..."

My 15 yr old doesn't even say two words to me.....

And poor Sjon....he's standing there....looking worried and confused and not knowing what to do.....I give him a look and tell him not to worry.....

Then MM is sitting there beside the EX and she hands me some paperwork and says.....this is for you. (some paperwork....looks like final divorce papers)

I get everyone in my car, but my 13 yr old doesn't want to get out of her fathers van....she looks hurt and I don't know....constricted. She tells me that she'll stay in her Baba's van and that he's going to just drive her right home. (a one minute ride).....I look at her and agree. She looks visually upset.

The ex pulls out and drives.....gets to my house....lets Maryam out....waves at the other kids and then drives away.

I'm shaking.

Turns out he told the kids that he was taking them to African Lion Safari....even tho I told him it wasn't happening. After he almost had them all in his car....that's what he said they were going to do. Complete disregard for ANYTHING I tell him.

But even worse.....it was a snatch and grab on his part.

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I've decided that I'm changing the paperwork to either no visitation or completely supervised..... I think everyone has been more right about the EX than I ever have.....

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Had a convo with the 13 yr old when things calmed down a bit.....she's only upset about the drama. Supposedly the entire 5 mins she was in his presence, all he did was yell and complain about the fact that Sjon took the kids out. And choice words about me as well. This all happened two hours ago, and now Maryam is sitting watching TV with Nemo and Abdu and she's fine.

And yes....the papers are final divorce....I don't know what I'm supposed to do with them....so I'll be heading off to legal aid on Monday.