He's got a plan....OMG

My 13 yr old asked to have a private talk with me after her weekend with her father. If you all remember, she had refused to see him for the longest time. He'd come to take everyone out, but she wouldn't go to the door to see him. And there she is, asking to have a private talk....

Did I mention the new Ipod touch? Yes....a belated bday present from her father for her July 1st bday.

So the private talk....

She wants to go live with her father for one year. She thought about it the past weekend and its what she wants to do.

I'm stunned but recover quickly. I remember that my oldest didnt go last weekend, and obviously the ex and my 15 yr old tried to work some magic on her. OMG....doesn't ever stop?

The conversation was going good with my daughter....and I flat out told her NO. She cried a bit, and when I tried to reason with her, she kept repeating one phrase over and over again....

"you never let me do what I want"

When our private talk was over I went downstairs and my 13 yr old came downstairs shortly and took the phone to call her father. I sat watching some TV and about 15 mins later, look at the phone and see its still in use. 15 minutes? I get curious....too curious. But Allah wanted me to pick up that phone for a reason....so I put the phone on mute and then open the line....

I hear the ex telling my daughter that he'll take care of everything and he has a plan. He has the phone on speaker and I can hear my older daughter speaking as well. He's asking her about my schedule....do I ever go out and leave her home with the younger children....when will I be out of the house next.....does she know where the passports are....and then my older daughter cuts in and tells her to look in my closet....the green bag....get the passports and hold on to them. When Maryam tells him that I need to go to Mississauga the next day and I"m leaving her with Abdu and Nemo.....he perks up. Tells her that as soon as I leave to call him. Maryam starts crying on the phone and he tells her not to worry. She says she is scared and that this is drastic,....but both of them start coaching her...

When your mother kidnapped you from Egypt it was hard on me, but I got over it....so will she...
She kidnapped you once, so I'm just doing the same thing...
I think its better we do this when Cleo leaves.....it'll be easier when she's gone....

My 15 yr old is telling her that its my fault for not agreeing...so things will happen the hard way....

OMG.....just unreal. I manage to keep on the phone until they hang up and I'm shaking. Shaking. I call the cops and find out that they can't do anything at the moment, because no crime has been committed. But I also find out, that should the ex take the kids and I call the cops....once the kids are found they are returned to me whether they want to or not, because I have custody. I talk with the cops for a while.....so many questions.

When I got off the phone, I went and got the passports.....I'm putting them in a deposit box ASAP. I'm thinking, and I'm blank.....what to do? OMG....

He's planning to kidnap the kids? WTF? Is he nuts? Did he go ballistic after the court case?

So yesterday I took Maryam for a long drive.....and we talked and talked. Finally got around to her father and the phone call. She spilled. She's scared and she feels pressured. She told me that on the weekend her father and sister literally grilled her the entire time until she just didn't know what to do but agree with them... I could so easily smack him up the head right now...

So guess what happens with the EX yesterday....he had to drive to Montreal to pick up MM....and the car broke down halfway....oh the story sounds so familiar. Car died and he and my wayward 15 yr old spend 4 1/2 hours on the side of the highway waiting for CAA and a friend to pick them up. Montreal is 7 hours there and 7 more back. So yeah....they spent the entire day on the road. And the car? Yeah...it's DEAD.....either he'll buy another one or spend a small fortune fixing it. Oh how Allah protects me....alhamdulillah. Seems kidnapping plan is on hold until a suitable vehicle is found.....dumb asshole.

Today I called my 15 yr old and in a controlled yet angry way....I gave it to her. I put her in her place and when she tried to tell me her excuses and lame ideas....I told her that its just BULLSHIT. Oh yeah.....I laid it on the line for her. And of the strangest things she said to me.....she told me that she couldn't live with me anymore because I do bad things. Bad things? Bad things? I asked her to explain and it was just ridiculous. I told her to stop saying things her father coaches her to say and to take a look at herself and her behaviour and actions and tell me what is bad...?? OH man....

So then I tell her to give the phone to her father. I tell him that I need to meet up with him and have a discussion face to face. I don't tell him why....but I'm sure the 15 yr old will clue him in. He tells me he doesn't know whats going on with his car but that I'll have to drive to him to talk....2 hours drive.....crap....can't do it at the moment....was hoping to meet him halfway. Sheesh. I've already talked to a friend who would attend this meeting with me.....she's going to sit at another table and just read a book and not be seen. It'll prove to be a crazy meeting tho....because I'm going to be telling him I heard the conversation and that any visits he has with the kids from now on are going to be supervised by the gov't. In fact....he won't be seeing the kids for awhile.

I'll go tomorrow to get things started on changing the visitation on my paperwork.

Why on earth would he be planning something like this 3 years later?

I'm beside myself with anger..... and really need advice to what else I should be thinking about.....