Dodgeball....
So I've planned on planting a tickle since a few days......by tickle I mean asking a specific question that makes conversation open the way that you want.....or asking a certain question, hoping that another more important question arises from it......
So we are sitting eating our chocolate croissants and drinking our coffee when I start.....
"How come your new business partner doesn't call from Canada like he used to?"
Hubby just looks at me.....his mouth full of croissant......he takes a huge sip of coffee and stuffs the croissant in again........aha.......I can see how this is going. I wait for a few seconds, to see if he means this or if it was just a coincedence.......so after I'm sure that the answer isn't coming......
"He used to call every three or four days......??"
He answers this one......"problems, problems....."
I wait. Nothing more. (this isn't working the way I expected......!!!)
"Do you think that you can get your investment back from him?"
Without looking at me he answers...."We'll see."
I give up. And then ask him about our sacrifice for Eid. Changing the conversation. And as he goes out the door I ask him what time he'll be home and he says to me.....looking directly into my eyes...."Whats up? What do you have in mind? There's something going on with you today..."
I laugh it off and say....absolutely nothing......
So what have I learned? Getting him to talk about Canada is going to prove extremely difficult. He's on the defensive....and doesn't want to share that with me. But that's okay....I tickled today.....and perhaps in a few more days, I'll do it again.......but just so that you all know the score in Cda.......
*court case is finished
*his apt is gone
*business is over
*but the wife is still there......
And I really wonder how she fits in............
posted by Safa at 12:47 AM
10 Comments:
You know? As an Egyptian reading this, your conversations totally fit in an Egyptian soap opera! He is surely "s-sayid!"
12:59 PM
Hee! A tickle, that's cute. My husband sometimes does the thing where I ask him something, I wait till he's done chewing, thinking, he's about to reply, then takes another bite. Arggh!
11:02 PM
Why doesn't he want to talk about Canada at all? I wonder why they're still married...what if they're not? Since he hasn't been completely honest about marrying in the first place, do you think he's ended it (and she's clinging)? By telling you he ended it, wouldn't that sorta be like conceding in his eyes? Just thinking Egyptian male ego here.
7:49 PM
They are definately still married.....when he arrived this trip he was overheard yelling at her on the phone saying..."If you want a divorce then go talk to the sheikh!!!"
Yesterdays text message is back to the crazy again......she's freaking out, she's going to a psychologist and she wonders what's the point of being married to a non existant husband. (and honestly......it put chills down my spine)
2:21 AM
"she wonders what's the point of being married to a non existent husband"
Now she knows a little bit of what you went through! So what happened to the divorces he supposedly did?
Men can be such idiots!
Anisah
1:14 PM
could it be that he owes her money? as in, if he divorces her then he has to give her a certain amount of money? sometimes people put that in their marriage contracts.....or he could have given her part of her dowry when they married and will have to give her the rest if they divorce.......
it just sounds like they both are tired of each other and both emotionally detached....so what else is keeping them together? like him refusing to divorce her?
sounds fishy.....
6:34 PM
HEY!!! salaaaaM! omg. long time no talk. got busy at work -- short staffed .. didnt have time to come online. missssed it soo much. back to blogging.
how are you!? i hope all is well with you and your family. last i heard you were very very pregnant. take care, iA talk to you soon
6:38 AM
Asalamolakum,
I have a somewhat random question for ya. A very close friend of mine (a muslim sister)has been proposed to by a man who has a family. The brother appears to be very pious and knowledgeable and can afford to expan his family. However, the sister (potential 2nd wife) is hesitant to enter this situation because she would not want to be the cause of any pain or displeasure to another sister. On the other hand, this sister has been searching for several years for a spouse and when she finally finds the "one" it happens to be under these circumstances. She wants a family and companionship. I can't knock her for that. I don't know what to tell her, after reading soo many poly blogs, i am totally biased! What advice would you guys give to a woman in this situation?
10:17 AM
I wonder if you listen to music...if you do please listen to this song by sugarland. its called "stay. here are the lyrics:
I've been sittin' here stairin' at the clock on the wall
And I've been layin' here prayin'
Prayin' she won't call
It's just another call from home and you'll get it and be gone and I'll be cryin'
And I'll be beggin' you baby
Beg you not to leave
But I'll be left here waitin'
My Heart on my sleeve
Oh for the next time we'll be here seems like a million years and I think I'm dyin'
What do I have to do to make you see
She can't love you like me
Why don't you stay
I'm down on my knees
I'm so tired of bein' lonely
Don't I give you what you need
When she calls you to go
There is one thing you should know
We don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay
You keep tellin' me baby
There will come a time
When you will leave her arms
And forever be in mine
But I don't think that's the truth
And I don't like bein' used and I'm tired of waitin'
It's too much pain to have to bare
To love a man you have to share
Why don't you stay
I'm down on my knees
I'm so tired of bein' lonely
Don't I give you what you need
When she calls you to go
There is one thing you should know
We don't have to live this way
Baby, why don't you stay
I can't take it any longer but my will is gettin' stronger
And I think I know just what I have to do
I can't waste another minute
After all that I've put in it
I've given you my best
Why does she get the best of you
So next time you find you wanna leave her bed for mine
Why don't you stay
I'm up off my knees
I'm so tired of bein' lonely
You can't give me what I need
When she begs you not to go
There is one thing you should know
I don't have to live this way
Baby why don't you stay
2:37 PM
Honey, I don't know how you manage. I could never deal with a husband who was not honest with me. It just wouldn't fly, I would never be able to manage it. Its a form of torture I think. I definately wish I could give you a big huge hug.
11:41 AM
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