Here...grab the string.....!!!!
Oops...I handed u the short end again....sorry. Sigh.
Official news just in.....and please say Alhamdulillah with me.....I've been saying it....but my heart is objecting the entire time....Oh, if only I could possess a vampires indifference. LOL!
Hubby will be arriving 1 or 2 days before the c-section. Imagine my joy at hearing this....I was so relieved when I heard this....maybe....just maybe.
But before I could fully enjoy this news I was hearing....he continued speaking.....
"But I can only stay 20 days....."
THUMP! (sound of my heart falling to my stomach!)
20 days while I am sick and in bed....20 days where I will have not fully recovered....20 days when the kids are doing their exams....20 days where intimacy will be impossible....
20 crazy monkeys jumping off the walls off my brain.
Well, I asked you to say Alhamdulillah....didn't I?
posted by Safa at 12:40 AM
18 Comments:
I am glad for you, Safa.
I had to wonder at your disappointment over 20 days "where intimacy will be impossible". Do you really think intimacy would make any difference? Intimacy in Canada produced and secured this wonderful son you are about to have but didn't secure your husband.
Dear sister,you need a completely honest appraisal of this man and your marriage. Only that will bring abot true acceptance or rejection so your life can move on.
Love you,
PM
1:07 AM
Completey honest appraisal of this man and marriage is almost completed. Birth + 40 days, remember? Oh, I see where it's going.....and it's really about true acceptance of my needs and the needs of the children.....and rejection of my current "single" life.
Had he have spent a reasonable amount of time here in Egypt this visit....well.....oh.....I just gotta have this baby right now.....I really need to get some control over myself.
I just checked my sugars...I ate 3 hours ago....it shouldn't be higher than 126.....for the last two weeks, I've been doing extremely well. Bad news....it's 280. The highest I've ever tested. And VERY bad......
3:47 AM
First and foremost: take care of that sugar and baby, Safa.
Second: You don't have to be living a "single" life, as you know. But being single -- and FREE to find peace, love and satisfaction -- can be a lot better than being in the prison of a marriage that doesn't meet your needs.
Ultimately, it's all about mindset. And your final decision (brith + 40) should be based upon a clear mindset. Either choose to accept what he offers and stop letting it hurt you. Or choose freedom from him.
Love you,
PM
4:50 AM
I'm so sorry. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about this. How can he just leave you like that after such a short time? You will not be anywhere close to having recovered from the c-section.
Just take care of yourself and your kids. I wish I was near and could come and help you out.
6:18 AM
Alhumdillah!! I am happy for you that he is coming inshallah... but like you said its birth + 40 days... inshallah Allah will guide you through this...
but Alhumdillilah!!!
7:06 AM
O My...But atleast he's coming. At last.
That's okay Safa. There will be other times. Allah bless you all.
7:49 AM
Asalaam alaikum Safa,
Alhumdulilah he will be there. Focus on the positive, and leave the rest in the hands of Allah. Keep your sugars in control. I had GD, and was diagnosed w/ type 2 a year ago...I already have nerve damage in my feet. When i had GD the levels were in the 150's. Now if i don't take my meds and eat right, it is nearly 400. It must have been undiagnosed for a year or so. The nerve pain is unreal. Take care of yourself, rely on Allah, not hubby.
9:10 AM
salaam safa
boy, i can't imagine what you feel now, especially when it's someone you've spent so long with....i don't believe i can say anything to make you feel better.
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there is link there for msa national.
jazakom'Allah khairn
salaam
9:13 AM
Mashallah....relieved to hear your husband is on his way...I know what you mean about "intimatcy" regardless of the family situation you two are "lovers"and you need him.. adleast HIS son will be able to "feel" his fathers love for him and the girls too.though there are some alaming questions.such as "why such short visit?"and I know you will deal with that in time..So start just getting the home ready for your hubbys arrival and I know "you cant wait to see him"!and Im happy for (Allah is very Merciful)
9:30 AM
Dear rejected Anonymous....you sent a comment that I decide not to publish....I didn't see it as being any benefit to my blog....but I'd like to point out one thing....go to my last post and see Nur's comment...she says pray for the egyptian and ALL THE FAMILIES! You were a little too quick with ur biting wit. As well....Nur knows that my blog originates in Egypt....for her to post egyptian news here is fine...she realizes to whom she is reaching out to.
And lastly....I don't take name calling in my comment section.....so if you keep that up..u'll never get anything posted here.
5:11 AM
PM on the ball with good advice, but you seem focused on a plan, Safa. I can't wait to see photos of this little guy! BTW...have you chosen a name?
9:28 AM
safa,
i believe it is the same person who left a comment on my blog too, must have copied and pasted. sounds like it was the same message.
apparently the person doesn't know how much we are grieving here nor what we are doing as a Blacksburg Community and how connected we all are, regardless of who you are.
i knew this man personally.
thank you safa for allowing me to post this, you are truly a light to the world.
salaam
9:30 AM
Assalamu Alaikum,
Oh man...it's like 2 steps forward, 5 steps back. I'm sorry the news wasn't exactly what you were looking for. Insha'allah like some extreme circumstances will take place in your favor where he gets to stay and you have a pleasant time (i.e. like the airlines he uses goes out of business, his passport is misplaced, ha ha ha, something weird).
Insha'allah insha'allah insha'allah! But, yeah--I GUESS alhamdulilah for the 1/2 half baked news...I freakin' guess.
Dude, like kidnap him. Hold him hostage ha ha ha! Imagine that!
3:54 PM
Salamu alaykum Safa,
Al hamdulilaah, Al hamdulilaah, Al hamdulilaah ala kooley hal.
One must just look at the bright side. Is it work committments that are cutting his trip short. Sometimes men have to do business to be able to provide for us woman, especially as he's providing for 2 families.
I remember my last c-section my husband was working in another country on a contact that didn't allow him to leave more than 2 days for the birth of our 3rd child by emergency c-section. So he was there for the delivery and that was about it! So I can relate.
7:46 PM
Asalamalaykom Sugary Safa,
My little guy bopped me in the head twice with the hairbrush, so I can't think as well as PM, who has a grown boy.
I will simply reitterate what she said: "Either choose to accept what he offers and stop letting it hurt you. Or choose freedom from him."
That means to choose joy. Find the way you can choose joy and do it.
Love to you and yours!
9:11 PM
INsha Allah, the baby will be called AbdurRahman....Hey princess Z.....good idea about the mysteriously missing passport.....Hmmmm....thinking now.
HA...that's not the first time for you to use that excuse...LOLOL!!!!!
OKAY....I'm choosing the joy!
2:51 AM
Awww...as a teacher I associate names w/ the personality of the kids I taught. "Abdulrahman" reminds of the 3rd graders calling him to come out and play, in their borderline shout/shreik "Abdul-RahMAN!!!!!!!!!"
10:14 AM
Salaams Safa
I am glad that your husband will be there for the birth but 20 days?!? Oh that is so short. There isn't any way that he could stay longer??
You are a strong woman and Insha'Allah you will get through this. You are in my thoughts everyday.
Love and Hugs!!
3:12 PM
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