I'm having a Caesarian......
Well, the news is in today...I'm having a Caesarian on May 1st...insha Allah.
This will be my first one. I admit I'm a little worried, a little scared.....but I take comfort in knowing that I am not the first woman to ever have this done. So insha Allah....it'll be just fine. Don't really have anything else to say about this now....I'm still trying to absorb this news. Anyone have any helpful suggestions?
posted by Safa at 9:00 AM
19 Comments:
Yes. You will get very constipated after the birth so I would recommend you start preparing by your diet in the week before if you can, inshallah.
9:56 AM
Can you get your mom to come and stay with you for a bit? Or do they have some sort of "doula" type women there who could come and stay with you for a few weeks afterwards? Insha Allah all will be well and you will recover in no time.
10:08 AM
Why did the doc say a C-sec instead of simply inducing? Is the little bugger or the placenta in a bad position? Just wondering because I have read that scheduled C-secs for the docs convenience are run of the mill in some parts of the Middle East. That used to be the case in the States back in the 70s and 80s but I think they have been successful in reining that practice in.
I have had several abdominal surgeries and anon is right about the constipation. There is some stuff you can drink that will help too. Try to get up and moving ASAP -- and that helps to keep other things "moving" too ;-)))
Salaam Alaikum.
PM
10:49 AM
i think you get constipated with natural as well as cesarean birth.
i had a cesarean after nearly 48 hours of labor with my son. he was 2 weeks late and i was induced. i was extremely happy when they told me i wouldnt make it naturally. the recovery, to me, wasn't that bad. it was difficult to get in and out of bed and off of the sofa, but other than that it was okay. i was driving a week later although not recommended. as long as you have your girls around to help, inshaAllah you will be just fine.
try to take it easy and don't push yourself too much. listen to your body. if you are in pain or if you bleed more heavily give it a rest. try avoiding stairs as much as you can, which is virtually impossible living in an apartment. make sure you have food available that is quick and easy, things that you can cook in a hurry or things your girls can fix. sandwhiches and salads are GREAT! indulge in the free food offered up to you by relatives and friends.
I made my husband get me a huge gyro sandwhich and french fries in the hospital the night before my cesarean. i whined to my midwife incessantly until she let me have it. i paid for it for weeks. :)
11:12 AM
Assalamu Aleikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatuhu,
Dear sister,
I commented on this before. I had two C-sections, and insha'Allah, your recovery will be different from a normal birth, but nevertheless, you'll be fine, insha'Allah.
My advice is that you should ask your Dr. how long he/she has been doing C-sections. Just to know if he/she is experienced, this will comfort you.
They should give you a bikini cut, but in rare cases, the will cut vertically. This is not the best scenario, also it is very rare, but ask them just in case.
Also ask the Dr. if they "double-stitch" you. My Dr. Stitched me inside and then another stitch before she finished closing me so that it would be stronger.
Also, you will probably be in the hospital for about 3-4 days so you need someone to help watch your girls during that time.
The anesthesia makes you a little groggy, so you should feel comfortable. Take some comfy socks, and clothes so that you may be able to recup as much as you can during your hospital stay.
You should be walking around after 24 hours after your C-section. I dislike taking pain meds, but if you take them, they will help you get on your feet faster.
You will have no pereneal pain at all which is great! But there will be some pain in the c-section area. It will hurt more sharply when you arelying down and you turn to your right or to your left in bed, or when you are trying to get up. actually it feels like your stitches are opening up but the aren't! Don't be alarmed. I actually kept going beck to visit my Dr. because I thought the wound was opening or that it was infected (it can get a little red) but unless it is leaking pus or oozing stuff, or is very red and you have a fever, you should be fine. The pain is only bad when you are turning in your bed or when you get up after sitting or lying down. Otherwise, it usually won't hurt.
The C-section area will feel numb for a long time after a few days pass. Like for 6 months. This is fine, actually, Alhamdullilah that you don't feel it!
I will think of other stuff. But basically, I went to a girl's party 4 days after I left the hospital ( I was in the hospital from Tuesday to a Friday)! I was happy and fine. I just stood up from my chair like an old lady! LOL
I don't mean to scare you. I am trying to tell you the stuff I wasn't prepared for. I learned a lot from nurses, etc. beforehand.
It will comfort you to have some nutritious liquid foods a few days after you get home because the pain meds will make you feel a little queasy and the other commenter is right, you will need stool softeners.
I wish I lived near you. I would gab for hours and we could trade birth stories. hee hee
I am glad I had my C-sections. I felt that the pulling sensation of my c-section was better than the possible pereneal pain.
11:26 AM
Wow! That's not far away at all! From what I've heard, you'll be pretty sore, getting up and moving around is quite difficult. You'll need your little helpers more than ever!
11:46 AM
Salaams Safa
I know what you are going through right now. I was suppose to go the natural route at first, but then they opted to go through the c-section out of safety (for me and the baby). I am not going to beat around the bush about it, it will hurt afterwards. When you first get out of bed will be the most painful. But you should be up and around within a few days. Just make sure you get rest but you have to get up and walk around. This is most important. It's amazing how much we use our stomach muscles lol.
When I had mine done, I was walking pretty well within a week. Just take it slow and easy.
Insha'Allah everything will go smoothly. I will remember you in my dua's.
Love and Hugs!!!
11:47 AM
Can't really add anything useful here...just here to tell you i'm there and praying...
Keep up your spirits!
12:11 PM
Asalaam Alaikum Sister,
Inshallah all will go well for you and you and your baby will be healthy. I have heard that one of the things that my aunt said worked well for her after her cesarean was to drink flat 7UP of sprite, for some reason it helped to get the gas moving out that gets shut down when they give you the pain killer for the c-section (sorry to be icky but no other good way to explain it). I know several people who have had c-sections and been just fine, just remember to take it slow afterwards, and if you can get some extra help around the house that would be good, because you don't recover as quickly from a c-section as from a regular birth.
Aeryn
2:10 PM
salaaaam safa
i had a c-section after 4 hours of pushing. the best thing is to get help and alhumdulillah you have many girls so recruit them in cooking and cleaning and taking care of the baby. you'll need to walk a little to prevent blood clots in your legs but don't over do it and don't do anything unnecessary. you won't be able to get up and be energized like regular birth. after a few weeks do some walking to build your stomach muscles back up. ummm....basically take it easy and don't over exert. hope it goes well for you insha'Allah.
3:11 PM
yeah PM is right, make sure the reason is legit cuz i've heard that too and it's becoming more and more popular. unfortunately the recovery time is much longer than regular delivery. also, make sure that the incision is horizontal right above the pubic bone so that you can try a VBAC if you get pregnant again. they won't let you push in any other incision, or at least here in the states. i forget what the term is for the incision.
3:14 PM
in egypt, i think for c-sections they send you home the next day. probalby depends on teh doctor.
3:17 PM
Shabana....it's a tricky situation getting my mom to come right now....she's still flaming mad at my husband.....and well...there are so many issues involved in this...but no....I don't see it as working....I have a maid who I'll ask to come to my house daily after I have the baby....
Excellent question PM! Let me start by saying that my OB/GYN doesn't perform csections...she has her own private clinic and doesn't have the facilities. So for her to say c section....she has absolutely NO dollar signs in her eyes....what she said to for reasons are...the diabetes, the amniotic fluid has increased, the baby's head is not engaged, my health....and then she said...rather than go with something that could be risky...(vaginal birth)....lets just be careful. So she has sent me off to another Doctor....
Jazaak Allahu Khairan, Ummabdurrahman and Musulmana.....
Cairogal...I KNOW! It's around the corner and I'm already peeking!!! Thanks to you as well, Cherie and Aeryn.
Thanks Nur....yes....I've double checked this out.....
3:27 PM
My $0.02:
Don't push it afterwards. Lie around, feed the baby and play with the baby and love on your daughters. LET OTHER PEOPLE CLEAN YOUR HOME for the first 3 or 4 weeks. Any heavy work like vacuuming or laundry will take you down like a stone in a pond. Even if you 'feel good'. Take it from a vacuum fanatic who learned the hard way! :)
3:30 PM
Did blogger eat my comment or was there something wrong with it?
1:11 AM
Excellent question, surviving! I must offer my apologies.....you included ur email in your comment and I thought it best not to publish....I had intended to make a mention of it....but alas....forgot.....thanks for your warm hand of support.....
3:04 AM
Thank you! I understand not publishing it, very considerate.
6:48 AM
As someone who had her first baby via c-section and then her second baby VBAC, I have to say that the C-section took me much longer to recover from. You know how you are on a "high" right after you have your baby and all is wonderful in the world for a day or two and then you came down after the endorphins wear out? Well, there was none of that for me with the c-section. I just felt worn out. I marveled at my baby but I was mentally and physically exhausted. It might have been better if I had a supportive husband. The mental is just as important as the physical when it comes to recovery. Please Please take care of yourself Safa, down walk and down too many steps. Relax, Relate, Release :) Most importantly-I hate to say it..but don't count on your hubby for jack!
11:06 AM
oops-I meant to say don't walk up and down too many stairs.
11:07 AM
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