Big family iftar cancelled......
Seems like the few in the family who have stopped talking to me since my hubby remarried, didn't like the fact that my children and I would be attending the family iftar. So the main ones who are against me cancelled out on coming to the iftar. SubhanAllah....2 out of 3 that cancelled live in the same bldg...the family bdlg where the iftar was supposed to be. I almost feel like they are treating me like I am the second wife, you know what I mean? (I don't mean to offend anyone by that, but if you are a second wife, I'm sure you know how it takes the family time to warm up to you) I suppose in a way, I'm not so sad about it being cancelled. I'd have rathered to go with hubby in attendance. Oh yeah, and my BIL with me in the same city decided that he's not going to Cairo in Eid. We go every year together......so I guess that means we are on our own for Eid. Hubby isn't coming either. It's the first time for him to miss Eid with us. So basically, we all feel like a bunch of schmucks.
Now what can I do to make the girls happy in Eid? I'm thinking crafts and stuff. ???? Any ideas? We've got lots of materials, just need some ideas.
In the past during Eid we've done, shirt painting, jar painting, plaster of paris modelling, basket decorating...baking.....
So if you've got some groovy idea, let me know....I gotta make this Eid happy.
posted by Safa at 3:30 AM
8 Comments:
Tie-Dye!!! They can do scarfs, shirts, pajamas, etc. Then you can have a big hippie party and dance to 70s music ;-)))
Safa, I am sorry the family is being so stupid. I was actually embraced by hub's family because the first had been on very bad terms with all of them. However, when she decided to take her marriage back she snuggled up to the family and THAT is when they started rejecting me! I am still resentful about it and have avoided his sisters since then. I will say that his brothers and their wives are very nice to me still. But none of them sent me Ramadan greetings although I sent them to everyone via sms. I will also be sending Eid greetings but don't expect any....
Insha'Allah it will all smoothe over in. Try to keep your girls from feeling rejected and have some movie marathons.
Love you,
PM
5:58 AM
I don't get it! Why is the family punishing you and the kids, Safa? Why doesn't your husband talk to them if for no other reason than for the sake of his children? They shouldn't be made to spend the Eid without their extended family around them, sheesh!
As for making it fun for them just in case plans don't change. . .what about a picnic at the Cairo Zoo? The weather should be nice enough this time of year that spending the day outside wouldn't make anyone miserable, LOL. You could also let each one choose one thing for all of you to do together, that way each girl will feel that the day is special just for her.
8:00 AM
Hey Asalamalaykom Crafty Safa,
Here's my creative teacher side running to your request:
The girls have had little control over their world, SO this project should be something over which they have a lot of control and input and ability to make their own mark of identity.
I was thinking of a terrriarium, or planting in which could live a Beta fish in a bowl, or a frog, or a hermit crab, or a turtle (wash hands after touching!) along with plants, special rocks, momentos, etc. Let them create a little world all their own which is peaceful and lovely and maybe has a little critter to mind.
Second, what of making a little dollhouse with all of you getting one room to work on?
Third, what about a book about the family that you are making for the baby? Everybody writes about themselves and one special memory they have of the familly.
I'm going to stop there, but if you need more SHOUT :)
9:09 AM
Salam alaikoum
I often wonder if they don't talk to you because they feel guilty...like they wouldn't know what to say to you if they saw you, so they do not want to see you?
9:19 AM
I just don't get it, Safa. What triggered this exclusion? Was there some bitter exchange with some of those family members that led to this? If not, where do you think this hostility comes from? It's not as though your husband's other wife has been to visit, or knows them.
9:25 AM
Salam, So sorry everyone bailed on you, it sucks of them but you can have more fun without 'em anyway. Have a Eid party! decorate the house with ballons and stuff and invite friends of your kids over. It can be on the 2nd or 3rd day since people are usually busy the first day. You could also just hang out just you and your girls, veg out, watch movies and do girly stuff like facials and pedicures. Hope whatever you do, its fun inshaAllah.
9:39 AM
Subhaan'Allah! That really sucks... :(
For 'Eid... d'you have any good friends close by? You could all hang out together... make some really yummy food that your kids love... and for arts & crafts, why not make something big and totally random? Like, get a biiiig piece of cardboard or those foam sheets, and paint it with all different colours and stick all sorts of stuff onto it, like strips of fabric, cotton balls, tissue paper, rhinestones, whatever!
Insha'Allah even with all these disappointments your 'Eid will turn out well... take care! :)
11:11 AM
:( sorry that your hubby's family isn't acting better. How about henna? You can invite some of the girls friends over, buy a pizza, do henna and hair - have a girls make up night??
8:21 AM
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