Monday, April 13, 2009

Wishing well......


My blog has been attacked! .... HELP!!

Big breath now..... breathe in..... breathe out..... there.... isn't that better?

As always, I'd like to say that I love the diversity of the comments that I receive. It keeps me focused, it keeps me centered and it constantly keeps me amazed at the friends that I've been blessed to meet up with on this blog. I enjoy reading each and every one of you.

In the past I've had some diverse comments that I've not always agreed with. And I've had others that have brought me to my knees in thankfulness and gratitude at the wise perception of some. I've always kept an open mind to what others have been saying to me.....and at the same time, not letting my mood be influenced by the comments here.

I remain that way.

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So how about a wish? Don't we all have one? I threw my 2 cents into that well and made one.....any guesses?

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I spent the day in Toronto recently. Oh what fun!! We took the bus there and the subway and wandered around the Eaton Center.....It has been 22 yrs since I've stepped foot there. There was much to see and lots of outdoor entertainment.....


The man playing the buckets was full of energy, throwing his sticks and banging out a rhythm that probably sounded good to him.....I was pretty convinced that my own son could produce something better....(always a mother...*wink)


We spent a glorious 12 hours together...Mr Anonymous and myself......


We held hands most of the time, and even kissed in public....OH MY!! (never thought I'd do that....) Every so often, Mr Anonymous would whisper in my ear....you look so pretty....<-----insert SIGH here......


How can I read the comments I have and think muslim/non muslim? Where does that fit in? It doesn't. I've long come to the conclusion that I lived in a sort of vacuum, taught by the Salaf of Egypt and subject to their perverse views of what should be and what shouldn't.


So now I walk along the path of the righteous, without a name beside me. Oh, unless of course it's Sharon.....I'm starting to warm up to it. :-)
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Also this Easter weekend, we spent a few hours at the park with the children. We played frisbee, lacrosse and ate more oranges than we should have. (My son's diaper proved this the next day....ewwwwww!)
My now 6 yr old had great fun on the swings.....Mr Anonymous was pushing her.....he also put the baby on the big twirly slide.....Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!
One of the interesting events of this day was that a little girl was swinging next to my daughter and she asked the 6 yr old what her fathers name is.....she answered..."amu Hossny".
Interesting.
For any of you who speak arabic "amu" means uncle. Not how you would call your father.
Note to self: Some things in life are just passing...passing...passing..........long gone.
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11 Comments:

Blogger UmmAbdurRahman said...

My parents divorced when I was a toddler, and my mom remarried. I think I was around age 2. For all practical purposes, my stepfather is MY FATHER. I call him dad. He was and is the closest thing to a father that I've had.

My mom tried very hard to help me build a relationship with my real father. I spent the weekend once a month with him for his visitation. My mom made me go, even if I didn't want to, because he was my father. She always kept her opinions about him to herself, even if he didn't do the same. I appreciate that.

I called my step-dad DAD, and my real dad DADDDY GLEN. I remember when I called him that once by mistake to his face. He was so upset and yelled to me that he was my only Daddy. Too bad his actions didn't show me. He was my dad in name only.

I've grown up and he's still as useless as ever. Although at times, he realizes how much he missed in my life. Looking at my almost 14 year old sister grow up has shown him how much he lost. So much. He can never get that back.

Your children will grow up happy and surrounded by love in spite of their father. He will be old and lonely one day himself and wonder what happened to his children. The children he abandoned because mommy decided to take the reigns of her life in her own hands for once. Your children will see what you have done for them. They too will appreciate you.

6:37 PM

 
Blogger Hirabi said...

I really like Sharon too ;-)

This was so oh, sobs a bit again..thihi...so nice to wake up to!

I made a wish too!

Hugs from Alexandra

1:14 AM

 
Blogger egianqueen said...

Well Madam - I am just aghast - kissing him in PUBLIC - what were you thinking - hope you can hear the sarcasm as it drips. I am so glad to hear that you had a great day with Mr. W - not worrying what others will 'think' as they see you canoodling with Mr. W. - must admit that is something that truly gets my goat here - being unable to be affectionate in public - or when any family is around - except mine - oddly enough he takes 'delight' in trying to embarrass my parents - kissing me on the mouth when they are watching (interestingly enough he did not do the same when my son was here - but certainly commented on how often my son and DIL were kissy facing in public - sounded like sour grapes to me). I of course see nothing wrong with affection being shown in public - not getting too carried away - but hey... Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy. Love ya - miss ya tonnes. Miss the phone calls - your ability to make me 'see reason' is outstanding.

2:52 AM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am happy for you...I wish I could kiss in public...maybe when I see you I will kiss you in public...huba huba....

4:32 AM

 
Blogger Muhammad said...

I'm stuck on Safa for personal reasons. You two look great together. I'm struggling with the Muslim/non-Muslim thing too. I don't have anyone in my sights yet. Probably not for some time. I am battling with myself keeping the connection open between me and my Lord and my level of tolerance and acceptance has gone through roof as to what is and what is not ok. For myself I hold my standard to my faith, but for my family I have laxed my standards considerably. So much crap has slid by that I wonder if I am even me any more. I have my Salaat and for now that is going to have to work. OMG this is not a comment it is a post. Basically I was just saying that through reading the Quran Allah mentions punishments, but the Quran is also full of expiations to the point that if you don't do anything but proclaim AHAD you still have a chance.

Be happy, Live life, Don't EVER Lose hold of the ROPE...

Don't take me as judging you, I accept you just as you are as I have always done and I genuinely want you to be happy. Smile you look good when you do and these days you seem to be smiling a lot.

10:47 AM

 
Blogger PM said...

God Bless you sister.

I am fine for now. Have turned everything over to the authorities and have received a lot of help and encouragement. Still have to stay quiet for now, until everything can be put in place.

Love you and am happy to see you happy and healthy.

Kisses to you all,
PM

2:28 PM

 
Blogger Simply Eva said...

You know, you are absolutely right Safa...about the "defining" Muslim/non-Muslim thing. I am not sure if you are referring to Mr. A or yourself but in any case it does not matter. It's your path and only you can walk it. Sometimes it takes stepping away from everything you were to figure out who you are going to be. Labels are very confining.

10:09 PM

 
Blogger American Muslima Writer said...

Hmm did ya wish for a million dollars, a castle and and to be crowned king and queen of happyland?
Yeah me too...

Sounds like a wonderful day all around!

1:12 AM

 
Blogger Colleen said...

I am so happy that you had a great time in Toronto. It looks like so much fun! I love the pictures (esp the one at the end ;)

I have been pretty silent about everything that has been going on. Sometimes it's best to stand back and watch, and then speak.

If I had a wish, I wish only unlimited happiness and joy for you. I wish you a lot of laughter, the kind where you laugh out loud and with your whole heart. To feel love from someone and have that reciprocate that back to you. I wish this all for you because you deserve it and never ever think for a second you don't. You do and so much more.

Only you know what is right for you. I won't ever judge you. I am not perfect myself so how could I? But I am here for you as my dear friend and if you ever need anything I am here for you always.

Love and Hugs!!!

7:56 PM

 
Blogger Cindi said...

Love that you're enjoying your life and the special people in it! Wishing you tons more!

11:36 PM

 
Blogger marie said...

Everyone is wishing happiness in this dunya, no one is thinking of the afterlife, as muslims sisters, what do you want for safa???

2:56 PM

 

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