answers to the Q's...
What does it feel like to walk outside and feel the wind blowing through your hair?
It feels......strange. My hair gets blown around and no one is giving me that "glance"....you know? The..."ohyouareamuslim" sort of look. Now I'm just part of the masses. Something funny tho....Mom took me out for dinner and I dropped something from my fork...and it somehow fell right down, into my bra. I laughed and told her....where's a hijab to catch that when you need one? LOOL!
Were you scared to walk outside the first time without it? What was that like?
Oh yes, very scared. My heart was pounding and I kept waiting to be struck by lightning.
Were the girls open to it or did they try to fight off the idea?
I sat and had this talk with the girls about me taking off my hijab....and suddenly they both started crying. I didn't know what was going thru their minds....and they both told me....about their journey with hijab...their father forcing them into it....and their desire to remove now sinces months back. But their fear of disappointing me was so great, that they continued. They removed theirs 2 days before I removed mine.
safa how did they feel when they did it? Did they feel relief, or were they scared something bad would happen if they took them off?
The girls were relieved. And it's nice watching them take care of their hair....looking pretty.
Did it feel really good to feel the wind in your hair?
Yes, except that it's winter. I can't wait for summer....and to be in the forest, sitting on a hill....
posted by Safa at 7:18 PM
12 Comments:
Aww, Safa, dont think u can get away this easy:)))) I mean...shukraaan for the answers, but I think u just generated moore questions:)
Firstly u made me remember something...Which I also did many times...do u remember, in one of your previous posts, before a year or two, u mentioned in a quite condemning way, that MM doesnt wear hijab...see..? Allah works in mysterious ways. We should never judge people (well, actually I do judge MM, but from an other angle..;)...btw, do you know any news about them? Or lets drop this topic?)
Other thing, u dont have to answer for this, no offense, wallah, but I have a question, that reverted, yet lonely muslimahs often face with: would you remarry? And if you could choose between a "bad" (non-practising/immora,/whatever) muslim and a nice non-muslim, would you consider the second?
Sorry if I sounded a bit curious, of course u have all the right to ignore my annoying questions:)
Good luck to u!
4:53 AM
Oh, Umm Soud....yes, I remember. And subhanAllah....every step I've taken, I've wondered if Allah is showing me a path to teach me a lesson. The reasons we do things, sometimes make no difference, if the end result is the same. So I know I can't judge MM...... Something that I have said over and over....is that my anger has been directed at my ex.....he made choices that affected me, not MM.
News about them? Well, she's back in Canada after a vacation in Egypt. She's still married to Hubbex, although he is living in Egypt.
Would I remarry? Yes. But I won't marry an arab again.
Hmmmm....interesting question about the bad muslim and good non muslim. Honestly......I don't know what I'd do. But I'm reminded of the ayat in the quran about a muslim being better than a xtian.
Curiousity is good....hugs to you!
5:19 AM
"But I'm reminded of the ayat in the quran about a muslim being better than a xtian."
Disappointed. You should think deeper what you are ruled by. Cloths you ponder,but not humans? Very disheartening to read such from you....
3:53 AM
safa, i know the saying is "never say never" but since my faskh, ive said i will never marry another arab again especially an egyptian. i hate to pinpoint the egyptian men, but well you know.....i used to feel sorry for the women that were married to egyptian men and having such a hard time because i thought i had a great one....lol. ya Allah. no more comments on that.
funny thing though....all those years you begged hubbex to come back to egypt and now that you moved to canada, he went back to egypt. oh the irony.
11:33 AM
Assalamu `alaykum,
Sis as I was reading I could imaginge you and your daughters crying... them feeling a huge relief. I can't imagine what it would be to feel that way, having to repress something inside you for so long...
Whatever path your daughters take it will be, insha'Allah their path and their decisions.
And I pray that all of you, in this family that you've created, will be comforted by The Loving, who is Light and guide us.
All the best to you and your family sis.
3:26 PM
Safa - I don't hijab it when I'm out of Oman. And I have to admit I feel a ton of weight lifted off of me without it. :sigh:
Boy, I somehow feel better after admitting that!
9:57 PM
as an outsider and a muslim, im seeing the fitna that can happen when a family breaks apart.
im sad u guys felt relief at taking off your hijabs. :-/
sorry im a little blunt but thats how i feel. :-/
and i find it so odd that theres so many cheerleaders for this. how strange.
12:38 PM
Salamu alaykum,
I concur with Burgundy, I too am sorry that you felt relief with taking it off.
It reminds me of my sister-in-law who removed her hijab and then left her prayers, and then her life was suddenly taken away at the young age of 32 and she had no time to repent. Allah knows best what her state is now, but now I have regret that I didn't say anything to her then for fear of being judgemental. Whatever you do, cling to this faith and don't die in a state of shirk as that is the only sin Allah does not forgive. Don't worry about pleasing man and strive to please Allah alone and you will be fine. May Allah bless you with all that is good and increase you in faith and love of this deen. Ameen.
7:54 PM
You have been through so much; and I have had respect for every1 of your choices; but hijab is farad as is salaat.
If you missed salaat; would I congratulate you? No; I would invite you to pray with me.
That is why all I can say is May Allah guide you back to the straight path.
I am not judging you. I just love you too much to not say anything.
5:46 AM
Tahseen, as a hijabi woman myself, I thought it nice to remind you that prayer is one of the pillars of islam and hijab is not.
I think safa knows good and well that hijab is a requirement. She has already said so.
6:34 AM
Ummabdurrahman the only reason I commented was because on the day of judgement I will be asked - did u say anything?
As far as Im concerned I want the best for her in every which way. But what kind of Muslim sister would I be if I'd bitten my tongue and said nothing.
You are right Salaat is a pillar of islam; however I was using it as a comparison method as it is farad also.
I am not here to upset or judge Safa. So if I have done so; I apologise.
I guess the reason I feel so strongly about it is; I'm afraid for her. I feel my hijab protects me from so much!
7:43 AM
I think a lot of people are forgetting that keeping faith is not measured by what you wear or how you supplicate to and communicate with God.
I really, really, REALLY am not convinced that covering a woman's hair is what is required in islam. I believe being modest is -- as much in actions as behavior. Right now I am wearing some leggings, a long sweater coat that covers my tush and has long sleeves, and I just came from the salon where I had my hair washed and styled, a manicure and a pedicure (very soft pink). I feel good about myself and am just as God-centered as when I was decked out in full ninja gear, and didn't take care of my hands and feet.
I know I am blunt but I call it like I see it. I have never seen a group of people who feel more secure by group-think and control than the Muslim sisterhood. I know Safa to be an amazing woman, mother, sister and friend. Do we think God doesn't know this too?
Love you, babe,
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