Ya Kalba!
The hubbex insisted on talking to me today, after talking to the 13 yr old.....it lasted all of 6 mins...if that.
It ended with.....YA KALBA YA KHANZEERA INTEE!
I know that there will be a few hard days.....today is one of them.
posted by Safa at 2:49 PM
22 Comments:
translation....YOU BITCH YOU PIG!
2:51 PM
oh my god, how can he say that!! Safa dear, leave those words away from your mind and go have a nice hot chocolate with your children, they are the sun of your days, forget the grey cloud in it...
3:28 PM
Just breathe and keep walking away. He has no hold on you anymore, and it's about time he felt some pain. I hope he is at least being kind to the kids.
Hugs,
mamabear
3:51 PM
Wow...document all of this. Watch the kids. Nothing says "love" like calling your wife of 15 years a pig and a dog.
4:09 PM
As Salaamu Alaikum Safa Dear:
He's just trying to control and intimidate you. He knows the gig is up. Don't fall for it.
Love and Peace
Safiyyah (Shaalom2Salaam)
5:09 PM
actually, cairogal makes a good point. a friend of mine went thru a bad divorce and the thing that her lawyer advised her to do was to keep a journal of everything that her ex was doing/not doing.
5:32 PM
Journal, blog, whichever. . .but it is a really good idea.
5:43 PM
Clearly this phone call shows his true intentions... just a few days ago he was willing to do anything
to get you back... and now?
Be happy that he will be out of your life soon...
12:14 AM
MashaAllah what a smooth talker. I'm sure you're packing your bags to go back to egypt after all that.
Looks like he doesn't like major life decisions forced on him without being consulted. Now he knows how it feels. I believe that if you didn't leave when you did you may never have gotten away with those children. If anything, we can be thankful that you all got out in one piece.
12:25 AM
What a way to lure you back to Egypt, subhaanAllaah! Safa, you're doing an amazing job as a mother and you were a fantastic wife! I know that it's hard but try not to let this get to you, inshaaAllaah! Hang in there! (((MEGA HUGS)))
3:50 AM
Dont let his words get to you, they are only words from a desperate man. He knows now that he doesnt have that hold on you and he is pissed. His true colors are coming out now, and he knows he will have to face his "people" and they will know the truth now and he will feel like a failure, and we ALL know how men feel about being failures!
You are doing really well sis, dont let his mere words bother you.
5:32 AM
Like water on a duck's back, let those words just roll off of your back. He knows he screwed up. Rather than going with a raised head, he's just lashing out now. Take those words as proof that he no control or hold over you. You've come a long way, masha Allah. Just keep your head up, Safa, and don't let him get to you. And thats a good idea, keep track of everything, like others have said. *muwah!*
7:33 AM
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7:33 AM
I agree with everyone, what a sad, evil man to call the mother of his children such vile words. Authobilla. I'm just getting over here and you have just blown me away lady! I can't believe you are FREE! Alhadulilah! Safa, Allah has brought you this far lady so do not - i repeat DO NOT doubt for not even on second that He will not continue to carry you and your beautiful children. Dream big Safa and do it!
8:47 AM
I want his skin to squirm and his ears to burn . Yes it's true; his, family is telling him to get "his" family back to Egypt like "property." I have always thought he was verbally abusive to you Safa. In some ways; I, think he couldn't stand you. You always made his coffee and got his clothes and took them to the bathroom. I bet his "other" wife has never done waited on him.I have so many feelings inside about him, but I'll reframe and deep breathe.
8:53 AM
he is losing his grasp and he is pissed. so let him be. what can he do? youre not in egypt where he can control your every move. youre in your home country...your land. his suffering and anger will never equal what you went through at his hands.
12:26 PM
WOW, All i can do is tell you that it wil get much worst then this. he will be nice when he wants something, and them very mean and out of control when he does not get what he is wanting. and it can even be at the same time. at least that is how it is with my ex husband ( the kids father)
Stay strong and write down everything. including how often he calls the kids.
2:10 PM
All the above, keep doing what you're doing, Allah provides and guides. Been saying lots of prayers for you and your beautiful children. Do write everything down that he says, does, any communication. Use his second marriage to get custody of the kids from him, why does he have it anyway?
7:04 PM
Safa,
I agree with what people said, he's angry because he lost control over you. I know it's hard and the words hurt, but try to understand that it's an act of a desparate man.
Alhamdolellah you're in Canada! And follow the advice of the ladies, document it all! Including the fact that he is not providing ANY support for you or the kids as a form of revenge. It really shows his "parenting" style and skills.
Hang on and may your path continue to take you to better places.
*hugz*
11:01 PM
Ya'Allah!
He will rot in hell.
And I bet he still hasn't put any money in the account for the kids. As soon as you move, start that court order for support.
Love,
PM
4:00 AM
Oh, ain't they the charmers when they loose control over themselves when they see they have lost control over you.
I had a "YA KALBA" party in the middle of the streets of the city as I told my ex-psyco whilst we were having a coffee that he was
out of my life and would not be coming home with me no more.
In public, in german, a rather harsh language, but not native to my country, although most of us understand a bit.
With my extremely non-publicity-seeking friend as an awkward witness, poor thing.
I rather took it to the streets as the previous"YA KALBA" party me and him had was in the home and that was pretty scary although I kept my calm as I knew he was desperately fishing for emotions.
I do not remember my offence, not that they need one,
I was being called in german "Schweinehunde"(pig of a dog, he is muslimborn and feels this is very offencive, but unable to keep anything as he is truely psyco and he has even had pork at my house several times), that really did not sting very much as my dog was curled up besides me and I love him to death, and with the mention of pork I started planning breakfast whilst he went on to the whorestuff. Now, that aint my job, so it did not bother me either. Then I got a free shower as he spat on me.
I calmly went for one with soap, lather and rince and called the police from the bathroom.
Freshly bathed I answered the door coming out of the bathroom and had him and his stuff escorted out.
I later took him back, not with any of his things in my house, but that ensured another partay!
"YA KALBA"-parties is a male affair, who are we to deny them to have them in their heads, just do not attend ;-)
Hugs!
4:29 AM
He is straight up hating because he sees that he can't control you anymore. I would laugh in his face and keep going. Living well is the best revenge!!!
9:46 PM
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