What I'm doing now....
Before I tell you all about how I got here....I just want to tell you where I am now......
I'm at a house with 9 other people living here. I'm in one room with the kids. I bought food, and when I went to the fridge to get it....it was gone. Now I'm keeping it in my room.
I've rec'd soooo many emails from my husbands friends. Supposedly he will do anything I want to get us back. This scares the hell outta me. I've been to legal aid and gotten a lawyer. I've been to welfare and will go back again on Weds. I have an appt with Family Services for counselling and to get me housing assistance.
I talked to my BIL from Canada......didn't tell him anything....and he's like....the hubby/ex will do anything for you guys.....do u need anything? I said no. And then 4 hours later, checked the bank account and found out that it was cleared out. Yeah, sure. He's trying to get control. Thank God I had taken some money.
The thing is right now. It's about 2 weeks until Welfare kicks in. My 13 yr old got really sick and I had to go and pay for her prescription. She had a fever of 102.
My resources are dwindling. I've been making calls and do have offers of help from the BIL...but I'm wary of meeting him. He wants me to meet him at the mall. But I don't trust that. I will go to a Food bank on Monday as well.
I need some help. So if anyone can give me a gift.....I will appreciate it.......and it will go to good use. We have so many things that we need right now.....I just didn't plan for. I have the paypal account still......it's.... surah2362@yahoo.com that's where you can contribute.......
JazaakAllahu Khairan for all who helped me before........Allah knows, that one day I will return the favour........
posted by Safa at 2:09 PM
15 Comments:
Safa,
May I ask what part of Canada you're in?
4:28 PM
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4:28 PM
Safa..have you thought of going to the Muslim community and what about your mother?
Naureen
5:41 PM
I'm going to the muslim community thru a third party. The Sheikh who married my husband/ex to MM is a VERY well known imam here of one of the biggest mosques. And I'm worried about this as well. I've already received 3 emails from this imam. I'm not answering him because I know he'll do an IP address check.
I'm in Ontario....Toronto surrounding area......
7:35 PM
Oh, and about my mother......she had a stroke last year and is on disability. She's doing her best to help.....when she manages to stay awake. She's on such heavy meds at the moment......and I can't tell you how hard it was for me to see her when I was walking out of the airport....she uses a cane now. Not the strong, tough mother that i am used to.....
7:40 PM
Salaam, Safa;
I know a sister who lives in St. Catherines. Let me know if you'd like her contact info.
8:30 PM
Safa - another place you could try for assistance is the local LDS church - I know that our ward has 'helped' various families in need - Christmas of 2006 the ward contributed money,household goods and clothes to a family that had arrived from Africa (can't remember which country) and had nothing - no questions asked about religious afiliation (I know they were Muslims) - the local ward is located at 770 Dundas Street W, and the info is in the phone book under church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. If you would prefer I could contact the bishop of my ward in Calgary and he can network with the people in your area.
9:36 PM
Safa, I just paypal-ed you some money! You guys are in my thoughts constantly! Inshallah, Allah will bring you through these tough times!
11:42 PM
I'll send money as soon as I can. I would have sent earlier but things being what they are it is a little tight right now. But I will be sending something for you. Hopefully it will come at a time when you need it.
12:11 AM
Money on the way. Snafu at the bank via the Internet wire transfer last week (they left out the swift code). Went to the bank and straightened it out in person today. Insha'Allah you'll have it within a few days. Next month more to follow insha'Allah.
Love you,
PM
PS: Any emergency (like doctor or pharmacy) see if I can give them my credit card info over the phone. Have doen this with my daughter in the States and it has worked.
5:57 AM
Great idea, Egianqueen....I think I will contact that church....if they are anything like you are, I'm sure that they are very helpful, concerned people.
JazaakAllah, PM....Weds I go back to the Wefare office and should be getting a medical card for prescriptions.....holding on until then......
Alienbea.....OH BOY! My husband/ex's brother is in St Catherines.....go figure! The family is probably known....I have to be so careful....but thanx....
6:39 AM
Safa what if you are found out by someone and your husband/ex decides to pay you guys a visit?
what is your plan in that circumstance? i'm sure yuv thought about it but just bringin it up just in case.
im so happy for you that yuv made this really hard choice to get out of this misery of a marriage you were in, that you really from what i know from you, tried your best to work out. Just make istikhara in everything and be sincere to Allah and insh'allah Allah will make a way out for you Safa. And when/if things get bleak for you in those dark moments, think of the hereafter and remind yourself of death.
You are lucky to have your kids around you. Don't forget that.
4:35 PM
I am not anywhere that my husband/ex would expect. I was smart and he has absolutely no way of finding me....
5:17 PM
Safa, I am glad that you are safe and being careful. I am glad that we can help you. I can't right now but I will when I can. How are your kids doing? How do they feel about all this?
Hugs to all of you!
Anisah
6:21 AM
Assalamu'alaikum Safa,
Sorry I haven' been able to e-mail you. I'm sure you understand being that we're both in the same predicament. I just submitted forms for family assistance today and it'll take about two weeks also before i see anything in my bank account!:( I need money bad too, it's awful to rely on others, even if they're family. My two older kids started school 2 days ago. They needed to go coz I think being uprooted so suddenly without explanation and having to adjust to a totally new environment has taken a toll on all my kids. They've been sick ever since we got to the shelters a month and a half ago. I have so much to deal with right now, not only with the move but also with my parents coz i didn't exactly leave on good speaking terms. I just have to remind myself that nothing could be worse than what I went through with the ex, at least that's what I hope.
Just a word of advice, no matter how tempting it gets, do not give in to your ex's demands. When I was in the shelter, my ex left many pitiful messages on my cell. Would that I have given in, I know for a fact that I wouldn't be where I'm at right now if I had answered those messages. I waited about 3 weeks before I made contact with him. Take care honey....may Allah's peace and blessings be with you!:)
Wassalam
Seekerofthetruth
4:25 AM
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