How to hurt your wife....
1. Send her to your home country and leave her alone
2. Let her raise your children without family support or your presence
3. Turn around and blame her when you aren't pleased with your children
4. Do things that you are sure to hurt her
5. Marry another wife in her absence.
6. Treat her like shit
7. Talk to your children about their mother, and say all sorts of bad things about her.
8. Tell your children..."I don't want any of you to turn out like ur mother"
9. Cut her off from the people that love her
10. Ignore her requests and stop communicating with her
11. Live your life like she's the babysitter in the house.....a babysitter with perks.
In case there are any men out there reading this, I just want to say......these 11 points work. You can successfully hurt your wife this way. Yes.
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Guess what?? Well, something came up for hubby. I'm supposed to be flying on Feb 5th. And yesterday hubby comes home and gives me a tickle......he says out of the blue.....
"When was the last time u talked to ur mother?" 5 days ago
"I don't think you will make it before she has her operation." I look at him blankly and then say....I think I will.
"No, I dont think you will." I say nothing....waiting for when he wants to present his argument...
It comes hours later. He has to leave. He cant stop his life waiting for the baby's passport, which might be late. Nothing is ever on time these days. So he'll make use of the time. He rebooked his ticket....and is leaving next week. He was going to leave in 2 days, but when I objected because the kids are in mid term break, he recalculated. How convenient. So now I'm not leaving till march. Well....Allahu alem.
I'm going to be moving to Wordpress pplz. I have a blurker who just won't leave me alone. And she's following me all over the web........so I think it's time to take PM's move as my own and start protecting myself.....I'll give you all a link when I get it done....
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If anyone still wants to help me out....May Allah bless those who have already.....and all of you who have been making dua for me......
But I still am a little short......
surah2362@yahoo.com That's the paypal account.....JazaakAllahu Khairan....
posted by Safa at 9:01 AM
31 Comments:
May Allah pull u and ur kids through ya rab...
P.S. What is a blurker?
11:30 AM
hi Safa! why u never answer me?
don't u like me?
12:57 PM
I have been following ur story, and I wish really that u can be happy and reach the peace u need.
12:58 PM
oh safa. safa safa. my dear. ahhh i wana wring this guy's neck. i so feel for you baby
4:12 PM
As Salaamu Alaikum Dear Safa:
Ya Allah! This post is painful.
I am not usually in the habit of telling people what to do, or making suggestions, but ...
"God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, courage to change the person I can, and the wisdom to know that that person is me."
You cannot change him, Safa. You can only change yourself.
You do not have to live in this manner. You deserve better. It's almost like you have the battered wife's syndrome. You may not be able to see how bad it is until you're out and on the other end of it.
May Allah (swt) protect you, comfort you, and guide you/Ameen.
May Allah (swt) forgive me for interfering in your marriage/Ameen.
5:17 PM
PS Safa: will your WP blog be for invited readers only?
Or will you have protected posts like PM?
Doesn't Blogger have the ability to do both above?
I have started a WP blog for my work as a Muslim chaplain. I have to admit that I DO love the creativity it affords :)
Check it out (shameless plug, lol): http://amirahmusings.wordpress.com
5:20 PM
I thought your husband was not going to leave this time until May. What happened to that? Mind my launguage but your husband is jerk. I can not people like him claims to be Muslim.
5:34 PM
Assallamu Alaykum, I want to help you for the sake of Allah, I am asking my zawj how much I can give. Email me. May Allah guide you. Amin
5:25 AM
I hope I'm not that blurker. I didnt think I was bothering you. I just read your blog and I happen to be on the same forum as you. I have made dua for you though.
5:57 AM
May Allah give you sabir to get through this
jehan
6:14 AM
safe im truly sorry for the years of heartache that you have endured that dont seem to end.
inshallah you will find some type of solace very soon. i will make duaa for you and your children. you dont deserve to continue suffering the way you have.
and im sorry, too , that you cant get to canada when you thought you would go. he doesnt want you to find your freedom.
remember to have sabr. but Allahu alim, you have had more sabr than i could ever have in my whole life.
7:23 AM
this is terrible!!!! my offer stands firm habibty, with the backing of DH and FIL.
*hugs*
7:35 AM
Hi Safa,
I have read your blog since the beginning and think you are incredibly brave. I think allah hears all prayers and thoughts and will definitely support you... I pray for you everyday - I wish I could help financially but can't at the moment.. if I ever can I definitely will! Be strong...
Sakina
9:33 AM
Thanks for the great advice Umm Abdel Hakim....!! (which group are you going to be in??) LOL!
Hey salaamz Zeynep!
12:40 PM
AsSalamu 'alaykum Safa,
I, too, hope i'm not that blurker you're avoiding. I have been following your story for months now but i don't comment. You and your kids have been in my du'aas.
Take care & stay strong
A.
7:08 PM
*hugs* salaam alaikum ya Safa...you're so right...those things will guarantee to hurt one's wife.
I can add another one though..
12. abuse her children.
Take care hon...there's evil stuff in our world..hold your children close and get them to a place where it's safe, for you and them, okay?
4:33 AM
hey safa, since you're going to be moving, is there anyway you can give your new blog info to those of us who don't always post comments but would really like to keep up with your posts?
i'm not a praying kind of person, but you are in my thoughts and i wish you the best.
6:51 AM
so right....sigh.
Blurker = Blog + Lurker
7:58 AM
When I do move over to wordpress, I'll publish a link for all......
7:59 AM
Salaam Aleikum,
OK slightly paranoid now! My last comment didn't get posted so I'm SERIOUSLY hoping I'm not the blurker!
InshALLAH you don't think of me as that!
Take care.
9:46 AM
Sorry guys to bust your bubble but I am the blurker she is avoiding...
11:13 AM
Now you've got me all worried about being the blurker too!
Noooo! I've only commented a few times on this blog and now I'm all in a tizzy! I understand completely though. I took down my blog and never had the nerve to put it up because of one evil blurker.
12:10 PM
Safa,
Just what you need on top of all that you already endure on a daily basis is a stalker, good lord!! Dont forget about me when you move also.
Hugs to you and your children, may you have the peace you deserve when he leaves.
3:27 PM
I am starting to feel a bit paranoid as others have stated. I don't post but follow your story. I have a hubby who is interested in polygamy and am curious about it from those who have been through or are going through it. I hope you and your kids make it out of all this well and happy.
6:49 PM
DAMN UAR! Not you again!
MUAAHAHAHAHA!
I love you too much to call u a blurker!
2:17 AM
Safa, I checked now what this word 'blurker' means, I haven't heard it before..I got worried now. As I saw, u never publish my comments, just the last 2 ones on this post..And I think I am one of the most recent people reading ur page..but I just found it 'cause u wrote me..since then I started to follow u. Are you thinking that am I a 'blurker'? Tell me sincerely.
I am not a blurker. Even u don't believe me.
3:22 AM
Safa you know I stop by as often as I can. I try to keep up but I don't post often anymore. Wouldn't know where to find you on the web other than here. So I'm just stuck blurking here....lol.
~maggie
4:11 AM
SAFA: blurkers---I prefer to call them stalkers---are sick folks with no life who just desperately need constant attention and validation. this person could easily change his/her name a thousand times and continue to stalk you wherever you go. just stay here, change your email, and continue to moderate the posts. why go through all that trouble when he/she will eventually find u and continue the harrassment? do you have a Canadian equivalent of the FBI? cuz i think internet stalking is a crime. maybe even report it to the stalkers own government? maybe do a little checking up on that and report the sicko--you'd be doing him/her a favor--it's obvious they reallllly need help.
12:57 AM
Hi, Now Im getting a little paranoid. I do check your blog, only because your writing is great, and your story really touched me. I did leave comments in the past.
1:49 PM
Hmmm...should i understand that I am the blurker you speak off? as my last comment wasn't published?
- 'N'from India
12:28 AM
Assalaamu alaykum!
Hmmm, I think the meaning of 'blurker' has been misunderstood here.
Blurkers do not comment and therefore can't harass, they just read blogs. Here's what Urban Dictionary says:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=blurker
If you're being harassed Safa, that's just called a bored, crazy lunatic *shrug* - Yes, go to wordpress, you can have password protected entries.
11:16 PM
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