Choices....
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional ....
posted by Safa at 8:12 AM
Thursday, January 03, 2008
About Me
- Name: Safa
- Location: T dot, Canada
I'm on a journey.....quietly taking timid steps as life plays in front of me....I can feel the excitment building as I take each step.....I've got a line following behind me that keeps getting longer..... Come join in the wonder.... Surely someone up there has a plan for me.......
5 Comments:
dearest safa, i am writing because i have read through your entire 2 year journey. yes it took me about 3 sit downs but i did read it. i didnt bother with comments too much from others because there is always someone who will negate anything you do or say and they have not lived in your shoes. would we do things differently than you did? who knows? Allahu alim. i went through your pains with you and felt many times that i was watching a terrible movie that makes you cry. but inshallah, sister safa, you will find your way and you and your beautiful children will have a wonderful life. lol, i was clicking on links you provided and ended signing up over at sobia's. i even posted about your blog on my own website for women, telling the others if they have time to read it. one of my members, who lives in alex, said she is friends with a friend of yours who lives in alex and sees you about once a month. she was stunned that i wrote about you. small world huh.
anyway, keep up your courage and your strength. i hope you find happiness
10:54 AM
and hope is eternal.
11:18 AM
yes. InshAllah everything works out for you habibty and you can escape this suffering that you have to endure. You are in my prayers.
7:34 PM
Safa,
I still think you are allowing PRIDE to rule you and your pain is largely a result of that. You don't really want him anymore but you don't want to feel like you lost him to another woman.
We have talked about some ways for you to either sh*t or get off the pot. You don't have to wallow in misery anymore. Be PROactive and negotiate a divorce with you and the kids staying in Egypt without financial worries -- or negotiate a "permanent separation" with him going his own way after whatever woman he chooses, as long as he puts you and the kids in the villa and supports you all. Personally, I would choose the first option because you would have the freedom to find happiness with another man, insha'Allah. But either way, you need to do something and stop all this crying and sighing. Martyrdom will get you nothing, Safa, when God doesn't require that you live like this.
Sorry to be so hard but I feel like you are needing a big PUSH! I'm here if you need me.
Love you,
PM
11:07 AM
Truer words were never spoken. Hugs, Safa!
1:38 PM
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