Last rant till after Eid......pinky swear!

She's calling him every day.....and he's calling her. Two lovers lost.....sigh. Whenever it gets to be a bit too much with the phone calls....I sometimes point it out. And his ready answer? She's got problems.....oh yes. Poor thing. Lucky she married Superman.....he was always good at fixing everyone elses problems, except his own.

So we have this rule. No talking to her in MY house. He spent the day in bed sick a couple of days ago....and literally SLEPT with his cell phone. I spent a good part of the day with him in the bedroom.....and the air was so tense! It was like his entire body and being wanted me to leave the room. But I wouldn't. Allahu alem....maybe it was just me.

But then as I was sitting talking to him on the bed, the phone call came. He told me...."close the door."

I looked at him...."you mean as I'm going out?" And he says..."yes." Ahhhhhhhh. Okay.

I didn't talk to him much the rest of the day. Yeah....I get it now.

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So then yesterday after a good talking to by my lovely friend......I start being nice. She has rights on him.....and he's too sick to leave the house......so I just let it go.

But then last night happened. The kids are all in bed, and we are watching soccer. I tell him....lets go to bed. He's like...there's still 17 mins in the game....so I says...okay....I'll go warm up the bed. And I fall asleep pretty quick. But it doesn't last long. Maybe 15 mins later....I wake up. Something isn't right. I get out of bed and see the TV on....the remote on the couch.....where's hubby?

Oh....he's in the bathroom talking in a whispered voice. So he comes out of the bathroom, and I'm standing there....I say to him....

"Is there a problem?"
"yes there is" he says...

"Don't we have an agreement?"
Yeah but it was really important...
So you wait until I go to bed, and then you go and call her from the bathroom?
SEE! See how you think of me?? Is that proper thinking?
THATS NOT THE POINT! We have an agreement, you are not to talk to her in the house. I want to forget that this woman exists and I need to trust that you are going to make rules that you are going to follow.
She has a major problem that I am advising her on.
SHE ALWAYS HAS A MAJOR PROBLEM~!!!
Well I need to call her back...what do you want me to do?
You still have to call her again?
Yes.....you want me to leave and talk to her outside?(and he's being snarky)
YES I DO. Go talk to her somewhere else........

So he gets his coat on and takes the car keys and leaves. He's gone over an hour. At least he could talk to her without worrying that I might overhear. How fitting for him to be talking to her while he was on the can.....yes, how very fitting!

I cried a bit after he left....just because I feel low. Not because of him or her. But then I decided before he came back....that I should be pleased. I kicked the jerk out to go talk to her. And HE LEFT. Good.

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So when he come back...I'm watching a movie.....he goes in the room.....and I go with him to lie down. No words spoken. Then he decided to read the quran.....hmmmmmm. Baby wakes up but is being fussy, not wanting to breastfeed. Hubby closes the quran.....and tells me to give him the baby. I go blissfully to sleep. LOL! Sometime later, hubby brings the baby back to me.

So I was thinking about all this in the morning as I was making his coffee. You know how when you get a dog to do your bidding? And then you smack him on the nose with a newspaper? I was looking at it like that......

He left to go talk to her right? Sure, he had his tail between his legs and he was pissed about going out into the cold night air.....but so what? He did what I wanted, even if it was after he was trying to be sneaky.

So I've come to some conclusions.....but now isn't the time.......

After Eid, insha Allah.