of drums and doors and incessant banging.....
I noticed a flyer in my husbands beside drawer......it says...
"How to avoid discussing important issues with your spouse!!!!"
It seems that not only has he taken this course, but he's the new instructor for next term. Yay for him!!!
And it appears that no amount of banging.......drums and doors.........is getting any attention. Soooooooo...............I'll just have to bang louder and harder.........
I refuse to give up.
posted by Safa at 11:26 PM
12 Comments:
Safa,
I guess you don't want to give more details at this stage. But I say again: may Allah protect you and your kids.
But to be honest diplomacy and "dancing around the bush" does not always bring the results we want. Insha'Allah you'll find the right way.
Natalia
5:03 AM
Are you kidding? They really have a class like that? That is wrong. Just wrong. I want to discuss important issues with you soon chika.
7:35 AM
HAHA! Errrrrr....I'm really thinking that the class exists!
I'm tired everyone....walking up an endless flight of stairs......sigh!
8:03 AM
You know I love you.YOu know I am pro P.BUT this has got to stop. This is not right no matter how many ways you look at it..
This is a hard one for me but in my heart I truly think and believe you will NOT get the reaction, words, feeling, or whatever you are looking for with him.
You may get the attention but NOT the attention you want. YOU should not have to do all this....YOU should NOT WANT to do all this....arnt you tired????
All the BOOMS and BAMS and doors slamming and opening ......ALL the crys and tears will NOT change anything in the direction you want it to go in.....
The thing is Safa He gave you and has been giving you all your answers ...YOU just DONT HEAR HIM!!!
Maybe you are the one that needs louder doors.....
becuae i am sorry to say this but
HE GAVE UP!!
12:10 AM
Oh, don't get me wrong....all this is in my mind.....I'm not banging doors or drums or crying or fighting......
I'm just coming at him again and again about the baby's stuff. He keeps putting it down at the bottom of the list.......
No fighting, no arguing.......our house is a peaceful environment.......
The incessant banging is how I feel about getting the baby's stuff done......it's reached a critical level with me......
He doesn't hear anything.....
And maybe on some level...I don't hear him either.....cuz basically, he's giving me excuse after excuse for not doing it.........take away the stupid excuses and it just equals NO WAY!
And yes, I refuse to hear that....
1:48 AM
wow...your entry out of that country depends on this idiot who is just a sucky excuse for a husband.
5:03 AM
Can you go to the canadian embassy and get help from them? Is there any way they can issue him a birth certificate since you are Canadian? It sounds like your husband is using this to keep you hostage so u can't leave him. Although, if that is really his position, I don't think he'd let you leave w/ the kids even if you had a passport for the little one. Does he think u want to go to Canada for a vacation or permanently?
7:59 AM
'our house is a peaceful environment.......'
Stop fooling yourself. You are now the one responsible for the emotional damage to your children because you are believing this crap and keeping them in this environment in order to pretend that you didn't make a BIG mistake by not divorcing and leaving him years ago.
9:56 AM
the only banging you gotta do is the door, on your way out.
Don't give up, keep praying, keep on with it.
And the new flyer will be "how to keep your first wife, when you take a second"
And he won't be an instructor.
He'll be a student.
With an "F" grade.
:)
4:04 PM
i didnt mean real doors. I was not implyign any arguring and fights....I didnt even really mean real tears..i just mean making yourself wore out thinking and checking phones, and doign things. i mean...doing things to get attention, trying to talk to him about things he does not and will not talk about....i mean just wanting him to do ANYTHING!!!
Take it out of his hands.take YOUR power back....Whatever needs to be done.....DO IT YOUR SELF..what ever you need......get it alone...let him come along for the ride..i mean let him join you in YOUR life..not you join him.....If he comes and you WANT him god ......if not.HIS LOSS..
5:22 AM
Men are always like this, A woman needs to tame a man and never give up trying. Thats the way it is .. :-)
3:30 PM
Subhan'Allah! What an acheivement for him....hehe
One thing that I can say about you Safa is that you must be a very patient sister, Alhamdullilah and very courageous and NO ONE can accuse you of not trying!
9:22 AM
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