a coincedence.....alhamdulillah....
So just as Safa is going slightly nutso.....Allah sent a little bit of calm. A bit of ease....alhamdullilah.
My niece in Cda was walking in the mall in hubby's city.......she walked right past MM who was walking with her 2 kids.
This marriage has been really hard on my niece as well, folks. She loves us dearly....and was with us in Egypt when the text message arrived. She knew what was going on....and thought things were over as well. To say she was pissed when she learned that Hubby actually married MM is putting it lightly. In fact, when she saw MM yesterday, she really wanted to slap her. Cuz don't forget....the niece knows MM....knows her ex husband....knows and loves her kids.
So here's what I have to say about MM in the mall....SHE HAD HER KIDS WITH HER? WUT? Last I knew....ex hubby had the kids and MM had supervised visits. So obviously that has changed....I'm wondering what she has? Joint Custody? Full custody?
Either way....I'm happy for her.....no mother should be seperated from her children....even if it was of her own choice.
posted by Safa at 1:30 AM
8 Comments:
Asalaamu Alaikum Safa,
Just stopping by to say hello and congratulate you again on the birth of your precious son.
May Allah guide you in the days ahead.
*big hugs*
Maggie
6:23 AM
Let this all be a part of the upswing, Safa. :-)
9:22 AM
i didnt make the connection. why was your neice seeing MM a calm for you?
burgundy
10:16 AM
ya, ok....maybe I wasn't so clear about this all.....
When hubby married MM, her ex hubby FLIPPED, to put it lightly. He demanded that she give him the kids.....so on the like 2nd day of marriage....she handed her kids to him. In fact, he sort of stole them....but little did she know that he had filed custody for them immediately.
So anyways....in the beginning....the ex hubby started telling those kids evil things about the mother and hubby.....got the oldest, a boy of 12, to call her and tell her stupid things on the phone. Like...ur going to go to prison...I don't love u anymore....u name it. It must have been hell for her.
Anyways.....when she tried to go visit her kids...she was informed that they didn't want to see her anymore....and Childrens' Aid got involved and eventually allowed her supervised visits....which she didn't take advantage of. She had hopes of getting full custody of them again. But in my mind...if she didn't go to the supervised visits....what would Children's Aid base their decision on for letting the kids go back to a mother who wasn't interested in them?
Another thing...is hubby refuses to raise her children. At first, he was willing....but the son also made claims against my husband.....and hubby thinks the kids have been tainted by the ex. (sadly true)
So why is there some calm? Well....her walking in the mall, means that she's made it past the supervised visits on to something else....that's progress. And whatever that progress is......I doubt that she'd give it up to move to Egypt.
There's no way in hell her ex will allow her to take the kids and go to Egypt. No way at all. And that's good for us. My kids aren't interested in MM. The oldest doesn't want her around us.....you have to remember that MM left the pregnancy test in the cupboard and she's the one who found it.
I brought the oldest with me when I bought the gold for MM. I wrote the card for MM with my oldest child's help. The 12 yr old met her, and was very uncomfortable. (which is to be expected) But at that same visit....MM fed my kids pork. Which blew the 12 yr old away.....how could she?
The 9 yr old saw her at the bank.....and was also blown away by the clothes and make up.....totally fine, I suppose....but knowing that her father doesn't allow that, and would never let them wear like that....it confused her.
Anyways...Oh my...so much info......but she was there with her kids......and that's good....really good.
10:42 AM
as salamu alaikum Safa,
MashaAllah it is really nice that despite all of the "stuff" that MM has done to you and your family you are still able to recognize the hurt that she must have felt, as a mother, when her children were taken from her. May Allah continue to preserve your strength and determination, Ameen.
BTW if you come to my blog you will see that you have been TAGGED my dear!!!lol
wa salam
10:49 AM
You bought her gold???? Ya'Allah!
I do remember also that helping her get her kids was one of your husband's "explanations" of why he is married to her. If that is true, then insha'Allah she will soon be able to stand on her own.
Salaam Alaikum,
PM
11:10 AM
this is quite interesting safa. this reminds me about something you posted a while back. your husband said he was with her to try and get her kids back.
could this possibly be why he is ready to close up show and come back?
allahu alim, but not out of the realm of possiblity
maryam
2:53 PM
Some more:
Her husband was abusive.....and she couldn't get away from him. Although they were divorced, he was basically "living" at her house.....
Hubby's original reason when he married her was to get her away from this husband. That's one of the reasons he stated.....and don't forget...that months before...MM sent my hubby a text message saying she loved him and then asked him to marry her. So she was already emotionally involved....Allah will ask her about that.....
First visit hubby came...he said...he's in this until she gets her kids back, or he leaves cda.....ur right PM, and Ummabdurrrahman.......but hubby has said so much......so who knows?
About the gold.....on hubby's first visit....u'll remember she sent me a douche.....well, before hubby left...I went and bought her a gold ring and medallion.....and wrote a card..."Barakallah feekum wa barakallahu feekunna, wa Allah jamaakum bi khair".....
It killed me to do it....but I thought of the rewards that Allah would give me....and thought it the perfect answer to her douche.....
10:27 PM
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