4 days.....and nothing to say......
I decided with ICEQUEEN to lay off my hubby for 10 days. No demands to call the sheikh...no whining text messages..."WHY DON"T YOU CALL ME?".....just to lay off.
And surprisingly....today is the 4th day he hasn't called. I really was expecting him to call on his own. I doubt he'd call me today, being Jummah and all.....but who knows? My oldest mentioned the fact that her father hasn't called us.
Do you all remember when he didn't call us for 10 days before? And then didn't call again for 7 days? He has a weird way of working himself out. When he did that before, I got VERY upset...and told him, if he was mad at me, and wanted to punish me....not to haraam himself on his kids. They were all very sad when their father wasn't calling.
I'm not sure what his reasoning is this time.....ahhhh....who cares? I've spent enough time wondering....thinking.....planning....and get nowhere.
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Here's something funny....I bought 20 chickens. No, really! I am going to raise them at the villa. Well, my maid is going to. I'm gonna have fresh eggs!! YUM!! I was going to buy some ducks.....but the weather is kind of cold, so I'll hold off on that. They had rabbits, and I thought about it for an instant. An instant. LOL! I'm dying to move there.
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My SIL is bugging me again. Some of you already know why. So how can I learn to say, "NO!"???? Is it a skill? Can you do it without having to make up a reason? I need lessons.....
posted by Safa at 4:54 AM
6 Comments:
Gosh, I'm sorry that you have to go through this! I'm sure its really difficult especially now that you're pregnant. Insha'allaah you'll be granted patience during this time.
Take care.
2:27 AM
After observing how my husband behaved when his family members didn't call him for months, i've come to the conclusion that some men just can't put themselves in the the other persons shoes. He always interpreted it as meaning that they didn't care, that they didn't want to talk to him rather than thinking that perhaps it was just that they were hurting and that they might want to see him take the initiative.Allahu alam what the real situation is, perhaps he is right but then again ,perhaps not. All i'm trying to say is don't take his not calling to mean that he doesn't care about you. he may just be thinking about himself and thinking you don't need him (no matter how much you have expressed that you do in the past). Some men expect women to do all the work.
4:22 AM
salamu alaykum,
I don't know how you can control the urge not to call especially being pregnant with all the hormones.
If you miss him call him - it might be more sressful trying to restrain.
11:14 AM
As Salaamu Alaikum, Safa I have been meaning to tell you - your image reminds me of my OBGYN's Pakistani receptionist. Everytime, I read your posts, I hear her voice. Yes, I know . . . you are Canadian - but I can't help it. You are the only blogger that has a voice. Take care and I hear you girl!
11:54 AM
Asalaam Alakium Sister,
No is a really hard word to say sometimes. I have had a really hard time with that one myself. But I have found now that I have my daughter (one year old) to take care of that saying no is just a little bit easier. My baby and family always come first.
Aeryn
7:08 PM
I think it's great I have a voice....and I'm good with any voice actually....except maybe PeeWee Herman.......and Mr. Bean. LOL!!
I think if I could somehow train myself to say, "let me think about it....or I'll tell you later" it would help me say no. That way I delay the confrontation.......I think I have a plan.
10:07 PM
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