an update.....to be completed later...

How do you start a post like this one? Where to start...??

Lets start with the EX....

So yeah...he showed up at our door....twice actually...wanting to pick up where he left off....wanting to see the kids and take them out. I had such feelings going on inside of me concerning that.....I really want him to have a relationship with the kids....but not at any price, u know? I expect him to pay support and perhaps....errrrmmm....have a continuous relationship with the kids? He should call them, perhaps talk to them online as well....oh so many things he could do if he wanted to have a relationship with them.... And it's not going to be me to explain that to him. But what I did do, is refuse him to see the kids........so he started using Noora as the go between. (she's the 14 yr old...his darling)

And then we had some drama in the house.....I really think it was caused from all the pressure that Noora was under from him....suddenly she snapped and went on a rampage in the house, yelling, arguing...stomping.....it was pretty bad. At one point, I actually feared what she might do.....and suddenly I offered her to go to her father...alone. And she did. It helped.

So we moved that weekend, phone numbers changed........

Noora came back....and she wanted to spend the summer in Egypt.....after a lot of thought, I agreed. The ex told her he wants a couple of the other children, I refused. But I had to let Noora go. Since we've come back, she's been at odds with herself here in Canada......and I think that her not having the chance to say a proper goodbye has really bothered her. This last year and a half she's been my trouble child......so much has happened concerning her.....and I really see her getting stronger and knowing herself better.....but then her Father comes back into the picture and she spirals down. It's so hard for a mother to watch that.

So I let her go.

The last weekend she was here.....the kids all wanted to see their father.....(except the oldest)....and I agreed....so at a friend of MINE's house, he went to pick them up. The kids came back looking happy, a little ragged and with Abdu having the stinkiest, caked on poopy diaper ever.....yeah....he isn't the greatest with kids......I wonder how it was for MM with all the kids? I understand that she lives in a one bedroom apt.....must have been hectic!!

So what else can I say? Hmmm....

Well, one of the things of allowing Noora to go to Egypt was that I had to write her a permission letter. And because the baby's passport expired....I thought of getting the ex to sign the passport app.....and sent it with the kids on that weekend....but guess what happened? Oh yeah...he refused to sign it!! Even tho I have a court order saying he must....he wouldnt. I told him if it came down to it....why should I sign the permission letter for Noora if he wouldn't sign the passport app?? You want to hear his excuse for not signing? Well, because my name on the form said his last name. (It's still my legal name...)...he said that I have spoiled his family name and am not deserving of it......and when I change my name then he'll sign the papers. So I say to him....that'll take 3 mos....so he says FINE...give me the passport papers after 3 mos and then I'll sign....GRRRR!! (OMG....I so wanna smack him in the mouth!!!)

But my brain was working overtime and I got this idea.....so I took off to the Passport office and brought my custody papers.....HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Seems that because I have no specified visitation and that the ex signed SOLE CUSTODY over to me.....I don't need his signature.....HAHAHAHAHAHA!! So I paid a measly $12 and had his passport extended to 3 yrs....WOOO HOOO!! (I haven't shared that little piece of info.....looool)

So I wrote Noora's paper...and let her go........ I hope she finds what she needs there, and I'm praying that she comes back.....

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Now....more news.....

....but I don't want to share my news in a post about the ex and the old boring drama that surrounds him.....so a post in a couple of days...pinky swear.... For those of you on my facebook....I'm sure you have an idea..... *wink....