she's going crazy....
So my 15 yr old sent me an awful email again. It was horrible.....I read it and cried. Thought about it, and cried some more. Oh how I ache for her. I kept my head on straight and answered her email matter of factly and again, told her how much I love and miss her.
And just now, I received an email from her and she says..."I know I've hurt you with my emails. I know your lies and I've seen Baba's pain. I think I'm going crazy"
I really miss her. Wish she'd finally give in and let me have her cell phone number.....
posted by Safa at 5:13 PM
9 Comments:
That's so sad. She sees your lies, and what about her baba's lies? sigh...I wish she would give you her mobile number, because I don't really think she is writing the emails on her own...
12:51 AM
All I can say is :`(
6:31 AM
Aww sweetie, I am so sorry. But I do believe you are doing the right thing. I do believe she is writing the emails herself, although I also think she gets egged on by Hosney and MM. I think this has more to play out but I do think (and pray) that in the long run she is going to see the error of her ways.
I also think she is old enough to take responsibility for her mistakes, but I ALWAYS believe in forgiveness and when the time comes, I pray you both will be able to forgive whatever damage has passed between you.
As for saying she thinks she is going crazy, I think that is drama talking, and most teens feel that at some point. The ones who are certifiable (such as schizophrenia, psychoses, etc.) don't usually have any inkling that they do have mental health problems. However, on the other hand it would not surprise me if she is experiencing depression. I think all of you could benefit from a therapeutical support system. I couldn't have done nearly as well raising my children without one.
Love you,
Lisa
12:27 PM
Yeah his pain...Sounds like him planting more crap in her head..I think as soon as baby comes she is gonna see why she is really there. Just keep reminding her that he was the one who cheated he was the one who left and keep telling her you miss her and thats all you can do.. Ask her to go to therapy with you or with her sisters.
*hugs*
8:22 PM
Safa I certainly feel your pain. Unfortunately I do not think there is much you can do to 'change' her attitude - even with her cell number. She is so intent on being 'daddy's' girl that she will willingly 'forget' all that he did to you and to the family to remain in his 'good graces'. In shaa allah in time - likely not very soon - she will wake up and see what is really going on and will remember what has been done to her and the family by her 'daddy'. Best you can do is just respond to her emails by reiterating that you love her and you are there for her when she needs you.
8:03 AM
I agree with Egianqueen.
I really think you will go crazy if you keep reading her hate-filled emails, for your own sanity.
I would suggest you make a filter so her emails go into another folder, one you don't go into at all. I would also suggest you email her and let her know you are not going to read her emails or reply until she stops with the hate towards you. you deserve least that as a human being, and not least of all as her mother. Let her know you love her, and you will always be there when she wants to talk to you and not just spew this hate.
Hugs!
Anisah
4:38 PM
If she didn't care about you, if she didn't miss you, she would not write. Hate mail is the only way she can reach out to you now.
It may take time, but all this will pass.
2:58 PM
What happened to Your mother Your mother your mother then your father..Oh I guess he skipped over that part in the Quran..
8:43 PM
Have you thought abt calling child protective services??? She is still a minor, you have legal custody, she is living in squalor in an apartment that is legally too small to accommodate 3 people, she is obviously being brainwashed, obviously needs counseling--her emails are proof of that, for God's sake what more needs to be done to take her away from that devil she is living with??? I asked you this before Safa but you never answered me...is she even in school??? Also, have you been in touch with her school? It needs to be shown that even though she says she doesnt want you in her life, that you are following up and watching over her. This h*t needs to end now, and I think you can end it. I believe that not only are you within your rights by the law, that aregardless of what she says, you also have a moral obligation to remove her from this horrible life she is living. I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this Safa. Meantime, hugs and du'ahs for all of you!
12:13 PM
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