...sneak a peek, Safa!
8 hours? What was I supposed to accomplish in 8 hours? Cooking? Cleaning? Cleaning? His clothes? What was I supposed to finish so that everything would be just perfect??
Who cares?
Do you actually think I ran around the house with my head cut off? I didn't. I took 1/2 KG of chicken breasts outta the freezer......walked over to the store with the two youngest......laughed and talked while walking...dragging out a 5 min walk into more than 30 mins. When I got home, I washed the bathtub and got the oldest to vaccuum. Cooked up the chicken breast, made macaroni...showered.
That's it.
When he arrived, he came in and kissed me..............(I forgot to mention I put on makeup....)....he brought gifts for the kids....he carried his son and kissed him. We prayed Fajr all together..... He left Canada on the 29th and was 2 days travelling to get here, so he was exhausted. We fell asleep with the baby between us.
He has things to do already here in Egypt....the workers doing the work at the villa have taken their own vacation....so hubby has to go and find out who he has to beat up...(j/k) The 4 yr old has to be registered for school.....etc etc. So he woke up and got ready to go out immediately. He called me from the shower...."Safa! SAFA!" I make it over there.....yes?? He asks me to wash his back.....sigh...okay. So as I take the loofah and scrub it....I mention to him that I bought a "loofah belt"......a long loofah with two string handles so that he can wash his own back....
He says to me softly..."but I like it when you do it...."
Oh ya. I say inside myself.....SURE! And leave the bathroom with a stupid little smirk on my face. SURE. He finishes...gets dressed....takes the 4 yr old and the oldest. Hmmmmm.....kinda worried about the oldest being with him.......she's not really his best friend. But okay...
They all leave. I open computer....make myself a coffee and then think.......hmmmmm......lemme go see his tickets. I didn't ask him how long he's staying.... So I go to the bedroom and open the drawer and pull them out....OH MY GOD! OH MY!!! Ya rabbee?? What on earth is this? Remember my post from the other day where I say, I think this looks like something I recognize??
...effort?
Well....no matter what the tickets say.....and no matter how much he likes me to wash his back......I am just holding out. I'm keeping the peace.....and letting time pass....and I'll see. I'll see. I am curious if he has any more surprises tho......yep......pretty curious. So I'll let you all go now so I can get on with my day...I'm not sure how soon he'll be back. Keep me in ur dua's....
...what? Oh. Didn't I tell u what the tickets had written?? No problem.......you can just imagine my surprise when I saw written......
.....March 20th, 2008.
SubhanAllah.....Oh Allah, give me strength.....
posted by Safa at 4:45 AM
19 Comments:
Ya Safa,
Kheir insha'Allah. You all are in my do'aa!
N.
5:16 AM
Safa,
I really hope things work out this time and your husband puts ALOT of effort into fixing things and working things out, YA RAB!
You'll be in my du'as and you your whole family.
I dunno...but somehow im optimistic.
I really want him to try and make you happy and make up for all of those months away from you. I want him to treat you as a queen coz that's the way you SHOULD be treated.
Let me wish him luck with the girls coz i know when things are broken inside them kids it's not easy to fix them. I can imagine the rage welled up inside those girls (esp. the eldest).
Easy you go. Throw all the load on Allah (swt). He will fix things for your best interest, you and your family.
I hope you enjoy this visit and i hope lots of happy surprises await you, ameen.
Lots of love
A different N. this time ;)
xxx
7:29 AM
Salamu alaykum,
Sounds like someone is coming to try and save the marriage inshallah. He's making good little steps it seems to rekindle some feelings of goodness which is a lot different then his last visit al hamdulilaah.
May Allah bless you and your marriage with goodness.
8:32 AM
Inshaa Allah all will be well. He really seems to make an effort, so give your marriage a chance, after all, he is the father of your kids.
8:46 AM
Sounds like you are handling things just right! I hope all goes well for you and your family.
9:39 AM
What Ya'Allah. I Am happy and surprised and a little sad. I Am so selfish right...with hubby there I will have less time to chat. Well, Insha'Allah this visit gives you EVERYTHING you have hoped for in a good way. I love you and I am gonna miss you.....sorry I can't call but I will IM you my new number on yahoo or something.....Love you...salaam.....Have fun ;)
12:34 PM
O my gosh, Safa, hello, its my Umm Soud, yeah the fierce "Divorce him NOW"-commenter, hehe...but now IO say, walla, maadry. Maybe he is finally realizing, he had just this "man-cvlimax-thing", and trying to fix it...Inshallah.
Who knows..maybe..maybe...:))))
1:08 PM
Salam alaikoum
I think he is making an effort. Good for him. Macha Allah.
I am happy for you!
1:27 PM
Assalamu Alaikum!
Oh myyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! I am happy for you! THIS IS A POSITIVE STEP TOWARDS A NEW, BRIGHT FUTURE, INSHA'ALLAH!
2:22 PM
I breathed a sigh of relief at the end there, Safa. Take care of you!
2:43 PM
you are surely in my du'as safa. kol khair inshallah.
xx
sarah
3:07 PM
Assalamualaikum, Safa
You don't know me but I've been reading your log for many months, archives and all, checking up on you, always hoping you're alright.
Your hurts and your hopes have been mine for so long now. I've been stressed out too that sometimes I tell myself I should stop it, cos I already have enough stressful goings on in my life but still!
My duas always. I so want you to be happy. Cos I want to be happy! I don't want you to be hurt. Cos I don't want to be hurt! lol.
My own p-situation (2 years now) with regards in particular to my cw is good alhamdulillah, surprising myself the most, cos I never thought that day would ever come, but after reading blogs such as yours, and those you have listed on your page, Alhamdulillah I had a paradigm shift.
I finally "forgave" my cw for marrying my husband while I was pregnant with my 3rd & my older two were only 1 1/2 & 3 at the time. Though I was supportive all that time, I just couldn't let go of my resentment (shall we say?) towards her, that nagging question "why would a woman do that to another woman (no matter what the guy may say, implore, persuade, coax, etc etc, lol)?"
But Alhamdulillah I had always tried my best to be a wonderful wife no matter what really and was always and am still respectful and kind to my cw.
You probably don't need to hear other people's troubles, sorry! But honestly you helped me, and I want you to know that.
InshaAllah it's your time now! Be happy! (You have to! Cos ... how else can I be happy? lol)
Salaam, UmmSakinah
9:01 PM
Safa, you are always in my Duas...Insh'Allah this is the reward you have been so patiently waiting for. I wish you and your husband all the best in resolving all of your problems.
Lots love your way.
9:39 PM
Safa,
I am not going to lie and say that I am not surprised. I am SHOCKED!
I hope and pray that this is a step in the right direction, that Hubby saw the light and he was SCARED (lol), and that Allah was able to finally reach Hubby and knock some sense into him.
May all the healing be yours...
9:49 PM
Oh, Safa! I am so happy..very guarded happy, but happy! I will make lots and lots of dua for you and your family.
Miss you. :)
5:54 AM
Guarded happy is EXACTLY how I feel.....
7:13 AM
Safa you are in my thoughts. May Allah fill your life with happiness always, praying for you and your family. Take care.
12:55 PM
The ticket is a good sign but tickets can always be changed. Hope for the best but be perpared for the worst. Keep your battle armor on sis. He just got there, don't get mushy on me yet. It's gonna take way more than a ticket to put some duck tape on this mess.
Love yah
9:34 AM
I know I'm a little late at this but congrats and hope things are well :)
3:33 PM
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