delving deep.......
Assalaamu alaikum. I've been doing so much thinking lately. It's overwhelming and it's not helping me. I have been questioning bits and pieces of my life from here and there.......and getting nowhere. I really don't know where I am or where I am going. I live in Egypt with my kids and have absolutely no support from my hubby's family, and no family of my own here. Right now my hubby is in Canada with his other wife.....and I'm so sad. I'm crying, I'm depressed......I feel all is lost and hopeless. I have been tricked, fooled and just plain stupid. Yes this marriage was his right.....but I deserved some respect. I came to this country for him and for his kids. I took on all the responsibilities of raising his kids.....for him. I agreed to live alone while he was gone.....for him. I took insults, handled problems, got stepped on by his family and never said a word to him, so that he wouldn't be upset. And what does he go and do? He took another wife. And this woman asked HIM for marriage.......and asked him when he was visiting egypt with us......she told him she loved him......we discussed it....in details...I cried....I hurt....and we agreed that we didn't want this. Then he went back to Canada and 3 days later.....married her. I don't understand how he got married in 3 days? Who did this? And how come I wasn't asked about this? How am I supposed to feel? I've been lied to...cheated.....deceived.....I have lost hope. I do not exist anymore. This is just the shell of me. I have good days and bad day.......I cry and cry......I just don't laugh anymore......I want him to come home....I don't want to live by myself anymore.....and he can't give that to me. What do I do?
posted by Safa at 11:49 AM
7 Comments:
Oh sister, I wish I knew what to tell you to make you feel better. Unfortunately,I'm searching myself for the right answer. There really is nothing anyone can say other than come closer to Allah. Understand his infinite mercy, he knows what is in your heart and he hears the prayers of the wife whose in pain (will let you know of the exact ayah when I find it). Also know sister that if I was there in Egypt with you, I would give you a great big hug, fix you a nice cup of coffee and indulge in some gooey chocolate cake with you!!!:)
2:56 PM
I could definately use the hug. I think that's what is so painful for me....is that I am suffering thru this and don't know where I stand......
5:49 AM
Im writing this but I'm pretty sure this is not a real blog..it is fictictious, isn't it? I'm sure a Canadian girl raised here with even average intelligence would not actually accept her own husband cheating on her and marrying another woman? or maybe I read this wrong ..it's confusing ..almost sounded like he married two..but I probably read it too fast. Is this a story-line? Who is it supposed to appeal to? I don't know who the audience would be? Those novels of the poor and down-trodden woman are not too popular anymore..eg Tess of the D'urbervilles (Thomas Hardy) or Fanny. They just don't ring true in 2006.
6:18 PM
That's not the greatest way to comment in someone's BLOG by opening and saying that I'm a cdn with less than average intelligence. Hmmmmmm? Yes, I suppose you read too fast, I am a fast typer.......and I hardly think of myself in any way like Tess D'urbervilles.......I have neither been seduced by my own family member nor have I gone begging from anyone. But hey........my BLOG is just where I rant and ramble and get to express myself. You would be surprised how many americans and canadians accept their own hubbies cheating on them....don't you ever watch Jerry Springer? Besides all that......polygyny is allowed in Islam......
11:17 AM
Assalamu Alaikum
Man sister, I wish I could offer guidance for ya'. This whole thing must be so difficult for you and your children...My Allah ease all your sadness and bring you complete happiness! INSHA'ALLAH
1:27 PM
Salam alaikum may Allah help you be strong dear sister. It is fully your right to my knowledge if you want out upon him taking a second wife
7:26 AM
"You would be surprised how many americans and canadians accept their own hubbies cheating on them....don't you ever watch Jerry Springer?"
They wouldn't be on Jerry Springer if they accepted it would they?
10:34 AM
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